Is it ok for parents to hit their kids?
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A smack on the head is the best way to calm hysteria for a child freaking out,
And if you associate a
smack or two for misbehaving, it's a hellova lot more effective than "grounding" them. 😒Me and my brother, we got spankings for being bad.
That was from my dads hand.
My mom would use a wooden spoon.
(my brother, the idiot, once carved her an oak sword that she used when the spoon broke)
My sisters, they get the stupid new age parenting. And it DOSENT work. They are evil, manipulative, tantrum throwing brats when they don't get exactly what they want.
I never would have been allowed to act that way.All in all, a good cuff now and then is nessicary.
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🇺🇸U͚S͚M͚C͚🇺🇸 wrote:
True that!If they misbehave, it's a pop to the chops. Nuff said.
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fartex wrote:
This is what I think, but to add to that, it's not right to kick your kids ass for the fun of it.I agree with all of the above people like i said in previous thread about this. I only got my ass pounded when i deserved it. I once got a serious beating by my dad because i was lying to him to protect my brother. But in the end, you just made sure you behaved as you knew that when you didnt, daddys hands started itching 😖
And like sir talkalot says, kids dont know shit about what it means to show respect or behave, they dont get punished like us older (ahem 😪) peeps.
Bring out tha 👢 and kick some 💩 if they deserve it, just dont over do it
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It scares kids into behaving.
When I was like 1 1/2 years old, my mom caught me chewing on a plugged in wire, and she unplugged it then slapped me. I NEVER did it again 👍
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I was hit but never in the face but when I was hit I learned that that was wrong and I shouldn't do that. And after they would hit me they would tell me why I was hit and asked if I was sorry and after that theyd give me a hug and tell me that they loved me. Theyd tell me I want you to grow up to be a good person. And here I am now not perfect but better than most kids out there. When I went to school for the first time I was SUPRISED that 5th Graders were swearing and so disrespectful to the teachers. That I didn't know what "real life" was. I knew swears and stuff that's wrong existed but it was like a slap in the face when I saw it. So I'm greatful that my parents disciplined me like that cause I would hate to be like a disrespectful brat
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Can't imagine actually hitting my child. There have been times when I walked away bc I really wanted to, but I think taking things away and grounding is better. She's a very well behaved 4 yr old and we've never spanked her. Have thrown several of her favorite items in the trash to prove a point which seems to work well. Not completely against hitting ur kid, I've just found some tactics that work
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When you talk about dusrespectful kids talking back to teachers or parents, what if, I say what if they are in a need for something else? A neighbours kid was diagnosed ADHD. Now under medication he is a lot better. But would it helped with laying a hand on him? No! Due to his condition, he can't realise the consequences of his behaviour. No matter how much you hit him. He needs help in other ways. Please don't come back now and say that I imply that anyone in this forum has a diagnose. My point is that it's so easy for an adult to say that you should punish your kid. But think again!
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A typo there, disrespectful, sorry for that. My keyboard is too small.
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My (almost) 3 yo boy is well behaves too.
I always talk in a calm way with him when he does something he's not supposed to.
But after 3 warnings and telling him that if he does it again I will give him a slap on the buttocks or hand, I do give him a slap on the hand. Not hard though, just to scare.
Since I barely do this it does work imo. He starts crying, I tell him its ok to cry and leave him be. When he cools down he always appologizes and I get a cuddle and a kiss.
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Most people in my culture find it dishonorable to strike or violently threaten a child. I never had a spankin. My kids never had a spanking. We turned out fine. It is not neccessary.
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Please notify that I'm pretty sure that you all mean well, saying that you give your child a reprimand once in a while. But may I remind you all about the UNICEF's convention of childrens rights.
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🔥SirTalkALot🔥 wrote:
Wow... we always got the belt🔥🔥🔥ADD🔥🔥🔥AKS🔥🔥🔥 wrote:
A belt? That seems to be more of a man thing and my dad would never hit me.She needs to keep her hands to her self! She needs a belt or something..
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Don't smack in anger.
Let them know what they did to deserve it (and it needs to be reasonable and consistent in application).
Smacks on the butt or the hand (short sharp shock to get the point across).. Never the face, or other areas .. Open hand not fist. No implements (you got to feel the pain too).
Warn before administering punishment. It is the last resort.
Above all: Be moderate and patient.
May not work for all kids - other approaches may be necessary.
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I have moderately long hair, so she alwase grabs it right in the back of the head by my neck amd drags me to my room, and then takes my phone. But only when i back talk. I have gotten the belt a few times And i had to lay on my bed without my shirt on and my dad nailed me in the back 3 times, that was the first time, i cryed for hours. I was only like 8. He told me that after today, every time i get i major trouble, he is guna nail depending on my age, 9 years old would get 9 hits. Anyways, after that day i decited to just suck it up and never cry by the belt again. It made me stronger, and i actualy thank my dad for it, im 14 now and the last time i got the belt was about half a year ago when i got in a fight with a kid. Left him with a broken nose, and unconscious.
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I have never layed a hand on my daughter, nor will i ever do so. When she was around the age of 4 to 6 all i did was grab her arm and squeeze it gently, so she noticed the pressure, i talked to her in a normal tone and told her what she did wrong and why. This is one of the best aproches ive seen so far as it really worked well. Her mother on the other hand ( we are seperated now) always starts yelling and screaming in anger, adding the cursing here and there... Worked for a while but....
My daughter is now 11, all i have to do now is just look at her in that "way" i have, and say: girl, you dont just do that... She gets the point and is really sorry afterwards. When i meet up with my ex and she is going ballistic on her once again, my daughter looks at me in a funny way as like saying: the crazy b***h is at it again and rolls her eyes. But when i jump in in a calm matter, she understands much better. -
🔥SirTalkALot🔥 wrote:
It's not illegal to hit your kids for discipline. TX state law actually upholds the parental rights to do that. Not sure about where you live, but if it's in the US it's probably the same.Id like to add another thing. At least for American kids. Back before the government didn't do anything about parents hitting their children the kids turned out to be fine. But when they made that illegal my generation and some others from the previous generation have been complete screw-ups. Kids my age don't give a care in a world what they do wrong because their parents didn't punish them right. You can easily ignore a parent yelling at you. But it's hard to ignore when your mom or dad hits you.
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KillaCarla wrote:
Me too! 🎵pu pu pu pu put a belt to that ass pu put a belt to that ass! You know you teach those brats when you put a belt to their ass!!!🎵🔥SirTalkALot🔥 wrote:
Wow... we always got the belt🔥🔥🔥ADD🔥🔥🔥AKS🔥🔥🔥 wrote:
A belt? That seems to be more of a man thing and my dad would never hit me.She needs to keep her hands to her self! She needs a belt or something..
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Red_Nation wrote:
It's illegal in my state then. I thought it was the whole US.KillaCarla wrote:
Me too! 🎵pu pu pu pu put a belt to that ass pu put a belt to that ass! You know you teach those brats when you put a belt to their ass!!!🎵🔥SirTalkALot🔥 wrote:
Wow... we always got the belt🔥🔥🔥ADD🔥🔥🔥AKS🔥🔥🔥 wrote:
A belt? That seems to be more of a man thing and my dad would never hit me.She needs to keep her hands to her self! She needs a belt or something..
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Bigwill, could you please give a reference to the law you referring to? That it's legal to abuse your child in Texas.
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LexSuede wrote:
It is the same in most of North America. It is ok to physically reprimand your child up until the age of somewhere around 11-12...Bigwill, could you please give a reference to the law you referring to? That it's legal to abuse your child in Texas.
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This makes me really sad to hear. It's illegal to hit your child in Sweden. And your wife for that matter.
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I got my ass whipped when I was a kid and I'm a better man for it. Thanks mom and dad.
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But the topic with beating your wife is another topic...
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YOU wrote:
I used to have to walk outside and pick the switch that they would use.I got my ass whipped when I was a kid and I'm a better man for it. Thanks mom and dad.
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LexSuede wrote:
Spanking your kid is not abuse. Neither is smacking them in the mouth if they get lippy. If more parents did this, maybe I wouldn't have the urge to slap so many punk ass kids.Bigwill, could you please give a reference to the law you referring to? That it's legal to abuse your child in Texas.
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I was disciplined when I was younger and it worked. I'm not out doing drugs and I havnt gotten anyone pregnant (I'd surely get my ass beat for that)
I havnt been arrested and I'm going to college so... YEA it works and yes they should AS LONG as they know how -
So it's legal up to 11-12 years? Some of you honestly mean that you are better humans due to the fact that you got physical reprimands up to this age? Doesn't it also tell you that in an argument it's ok with a slap if you don't have more to say? Because, what can a kid up to the age of 12 possible have done in order to deserve a physical reprimand? And for the record, I have five kids. No hand on them, ever.
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LexSuede wrote:
Speaking from experience, I would rather have been grounded instead of everytime I earned a whooping. Being grounded or getting things taken from me was cake. Simply knowing right from wrong will not stop anyone from doing the right thing.So it's legal up to 11-12 years? Some of you honestly mean that you are better humans due to the fact that you got physical reprimands up to this age? Doesn't it also tell you that in an argument it's ok with a slap if you don't have more to say? Because, what can a kid up to the age of 12 possible have done in order to deserve a physical reprimand? And for the record, I have five kids. No hand on them, ever.
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I would be totally dishonored for striking a child. I don't see how you people can condone it. It is completely below my dignity as an adult.
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🔥SirTalkALot🔥 wrote:
My mom would probably slapped te crap out of me then send me back to china to go to school for 14hours a day with Almost no holiday breaks.Mι⚡⚡ㄗɪⱥƶƶɑ💋 wrote:
Is that all? The things my mom would have done if I said that... It's scary to think about it.When i was a kid, my mom would slap the shit out of me if i deserved it. Sometimes the shock of getting smacked is exctly what a kid needs to bring them back to reality if they get a little too big for their britches
I remember this one time when i was 13 and thought i was cool and i called my mom a "stupid fucking bitch" and rightly got popped so hard my nose bled... Its been 10 years and i have never called her that again
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