Guys...ur advise please👊👊👊
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Ok...since splitting with my ex I've seen my 2 daughters almost everyday. But a month ago she got a boyfriend...straight away she cut off all contact I have with my girls. Not answering calls or anything. I'm going out of my fucking head, I can't afford legal advise so I was thinking of just going round there, kicking the shit out of him and taking my girls out for the day till the cops turn up.
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I just miss them so much...a charge would be worth it. I would ask my RL mates but they just say chill...but it's hard to chill when some prick is with your kids all day!!! Has anyone been in a similar situation? Thanks.
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I understand ur pain, now why don't u go and drive over there to see your daughters or try and work out an agreement with your ex. I hope this helps.
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Kick the shit out of him and you will probable wont see your girls again. Its not his fault, its hers. The legal way is to go with this one!
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Don't do that mate, you need to keep cool head on this matter cuz its just gonna make thing worse, of she doesn't answer your call then try to speak to the boyfriend (like a friend) not enemy mate BUT what ever you do keep CALM cuz it's your kids future on the line 👍 All the Best
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Get joint custody...don't let her take them...all kids need their dad...I'm going thru the same thIng...
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Beating dude's ass would look great on a protection order against you. Can you talk to her family? If not, court may be the only way to go. What city are you in? There has to be legal aid, unless you're in a small town?
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1. Do nothing stupid like go and fight the guy. The result will not end well in your favor since now you have set a precedent for violence and that will effect your relationship with the kids.
2. Contact your local friend of the court to set up visitation or to set up custody.
3. If you pay her anything or pay for anything in regards to the girls. Get receipts.
4. Document everything. phone calls, visitations etc.
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Thanks guys...believe me I'm trying my best. And it maybe seems stupid talking about it on a public forum but it's just stressing me out. I've got no family and hers hate me. I've looked into the legal side but it takes so long. Christmas without my kids is gonna kill me.
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🍁iamcanadian🍁 wrote:
Kick the shit out of him and you will probable wont see your girls again. Its not his fault, its hers. The legal way is to go with this one!
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Are you paying child support ?
If so , just stop ...
I would suggest to go in mediation .
When my ex & I broke up , I almost didn't see my kids for 2 weeks . I was about to go crazy ( so I feel you man).
Then , we went in a mediation process (it's free in Canada). Then I had my kids half time(7days "on" , 7days "off").
Now I have them full time !
Keep the faith & fight for your right !!!✊ -
First off I had to quote Canadian because he's spot on right as well as the others above. That is absolutely terrible that you went from contact anytime to none at all. I can't imagine all of the different emotions you are feeling right now. Under NO circumstances can you start acting angry or irrational with her or her boyfriend. That all can be used against you in court. My best advice is start saving money in any way you can. If you want it enough you'll find a way to come up with the money.
I'm going to start praying for you and this situation, mostly for your ex to have a change of heart over this matter.
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It's hard..I know from personal experience. I walked in on my ex wife being airtight and one of the guys was my supposed friend. Then my 2nd ex got knocked up by another guy. It's hard but you push through it for the kids. Just make it a point to have a presence in the kids life. be it phn calls, cards etc.
Funny thing though my 2nd ex was the wife of my friend that was banging my wife..Yep a good ol' grudge fuck turned into a fun relationship of 4 years lol...
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Yeah I pay child support...I'm sure if I stop she'll come to me! I'll try to keep my cool...I've just so much rage inside thinking that some guy is reading them stories...ok I'm just gonna go to a mates and get drunk.
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James87💀🔫⚠ wrote:
What I mean is ,if you're paying , it's like you agree with the situation .Yeah I pay child support...I'm sure if I stop she'll come to me! I'll try to keep my cool...I've just so much rage inside thinking that some guy is reading them stories...ok I'm just gonna go to a mates and get drunk.
Tell her she's going to get her cash when you'll be able to see your kids.
Money rule the world !
Unless you're a criminal , I don't see any judge refusing that you see you're kids . -
Thanks guys. I'm gonna heed ur advise and stay away from the violence route...as hard as that will be. I'll go round tomorrow and talk to her. When that fails I'll just walk away and wait for the legal process to work.
It's good to know I can come to the forums and recieve great advise. Peace and love to all of you 👍
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*your kids
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Good luck 👍 I know what it's like first hand. She sounds like the irrational one and I'd you stick it through others will see it too. I hope everything works out in your favor.
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If you were married and your on the birth certificate mate you have equal rights.
Dont do anything violent or aggressive. If you go to court you need to be squeaky clean whilst making her look for want of a better expression a 2 but hoar.
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Thats the last thing u wanna do bro I no wot ya sayin iv got a son whos gonna b 3 end ov month and she's only let me c him for 35hours ov his life court is a lot ov money takes years and yh stressful at times but I wunt ov got 2 c OUR son if not wish u all the best with it👍
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One line.... What would dexter do?
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I agree with the people above. If you're paying child support and she isn't holding to her end of the bargain then stop paying until she gives you your right to see your kids back. And when u talk to her stay calm. Call her all the names you want once you hit end on the cell phone.
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Just to clarify or atleast in my area paying CS does not grant you visitation under the law. 2 separate things. Continue to pay even if she won't let you see them. Take the high road and build our case. If you ho to court you and can prove you paid and she still refused you visitation it will look good in your favor plus not paying only hurts the kids in the end.
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Go the the citizens advice bureau for free legal advice. Don't do anything stupid because it will come back to haunt you.
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🍁iamcanadian🍁 wrote:
Kick the shit out of him and you will probable wont see your girls again. Its not his fault, its hers. The legal way is to go with this one!
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randombloke wrote:
I know it sounds easy but I know it's hard you gotta go the legal route, good luckGo the the citizens advice bureau for free legal advice. Don't do anything stupid because it will come back to haunt you.
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Amish Hitman wrote:
Do you mean that , in your area , a woman can leave her husband , take the kids with her & forbid to the father to see their kids , without a valuable reason (criminal, violence, anything the ex could use against the father)?Just to clarify or atleast in my area paying CS does not grant you visitation under the law. 2 separate things. Continue to pay even if she won't let you see them. Take the high road and build our case. If you ho to court you and can prove you paid and she still refused you visitation it will look good in your favor plus not paying only hurts the kids in the end.
Not like that in Canada , to forbid to a parent to see his kids, it needs a valuable reason !Is the cs was determined by a court judgement ?
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Unfortunately so. It happened to me. I had to file to see my children. She never claimed any type of violence or anything against me just that she filed temporary custody and support. I had to fight to get visitation and on some instances she would refuse and my only recourse was to file a contempt of court complaint which really does nothing. Before all this happened I was paying support via an agreement we had and I retained all receipts because when it did finally go to court she had claimed I wasn't paying support and wanted back support but I was able to prove otherwise. If you do support the way I was use postal money orders and write Child Support and date on the memo line......
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Turf🐑Warrior wrote:
Better also get a lawyer. MateFirst off I had to quote Canadian because he's spot on right as well as the others above. That is absolutely terrible that you went from contact anytime to none at all. I can't imagine all of the different emotions you are feeling right now. Under NO circumstances can you start acting angry or irrational with her or her boyfriend. That all can be used against you in court. My best advice is start saving money in any way you can. If you want it enough you'll find a way to come up with the money.
I'm going to start praying for you and this situation, mostly for your ex to have a change of heart over this matter.
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also...
since justice for father's...
you can legally take your children away for the day because they are with a parent. also dont hit him...
she may be doing it for them too bond with the bf but she does seem harsh :/ -
Update...thanks guys. Started texting her (as talking would lead to arguing) and she has agreed to let me see my girls on Christmas eve and Christmas day. Soo happy. In the new year I'm going to get legal advise and I'm gonna try my hardest to be the good guy like you all said. Thanks again. 👌💓👌
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