2 year old tantrums
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I have noticed that there are many parents on TW. A such, thought it might be a good idea to get some advice about parenting. My darling son is almost 3 but he has the worst tantrums, kicking, biting, scratching, throwing food and making demands. It's at the point I don't know what to do because I can't control him. Any advice?
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Bust his ass!
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In all seriousness?
Do what parents have been doing for millennia. Give him several hard smacks on the rear when he misbehaves. By showing him that he's not actually your owner, you force him to respect you. By teaching him to respect you, you will also be teaching him to respect hit other elders: your equals. -
Disregard 'hit' in the last sentence 👆
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Whenever my kids make me mad I always make the feared threat of "i'll send you to the orphanage" or say "I wish you never born" then again communicating with them is hard because they're imaginary kids
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I'm not a parent but I had to try and deal with triplet sisters since I was 10. When one of them threw a tantrum, the other two did too... ;) be glad it's just the one hahahaha.
Do not try to stop a tantrum with a cookie. Leads to evil. -
whette fartze wrote:
😳👻👶😹Whenever my kids make me mad I always make the feared threat of "i'll send you to the orphanage" or say "I wish you never born" then again communicating with them is hard because they're imaginary kids
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ChristyMesa wrote:
My son is the same. But it is also there age. When the get older the get calmer. I learned a lot from the tv series the nanny. In the beginning i got mad when he was that way. Now i keep calm and keep talking too him and make him laugh. Try too pull him out of his drama its better than being mad at him. ✌I have noticed that there are many parents on TW. A such, thought it might be a good idea to get some advice about parenting. My darling son is almost 3 but he has the worst tantrums, kicking, biting, scratching, throwing food and making demands. It's at the point I don't know what to do because I can't control him. Any advice?
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A good spanking always worked for me when I was little. Make them cry. After the spanking, just ignore them.
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Smacking just seems to encourage him to hit me back
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And it doesn't help that he's telling his day care that I'm hitting him.
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I have 2 daughters. Spanking starts at 2. I don't beat them but the spanking fits the behavior. Izzy acts like an angel now. We can be out and see a kid throw a fit and she feels bad for them.
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ChristyMesa wrote:
3 boys here. 5yr old, 3yr old and 1yr old. When they get out of line, i lock them outside the house for several minutes. It does work for me. Smacking them only makes matter worse. And i do threaten to give them away to the neighbor, haha. Makes them behave themselves...for a while.. Lol Let them know whos the boss!!!I have noticed that there are many parents on TW. A such, thought it might be a good idea to get some advice about parenting. My darling son is almost 3 but he has the worst tantrums, kicking, biting, scratching, throwing food and making demands. It's at the point I don't know what to do because I can't control him. Any advice?
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ChristyMesa wrote:
If you do right, there will be no actual physical harm.And it doesn't help that he's telling his day care that I'm hitting him.
Meaning no evidence of you hitting him. They can't really report you if there is no injuries 👍 -
Superyan wrote:
Lol 😝ChristyMesa wrote:
If you do right, there will be no actual physical harm.And it doesn't help that he's telling his day care that I'm hitting him.
Meaning no evidence of you hitting him. They can't really report you if there is no injuries 👍 -
Mackmech(addKM) wrote:
Bust his ass!
Lol
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http://m.npr.org/news/Health/143062378
A great study reported on NPR may offer you so help. If the link doesn't work, just search for "NPR tantrum" and you will find it. -
Father of 2 here. Smacking or spanking my children is the last resort as they learn from the parents. As a previous posted said try to distract them or make them laugh. Get them out of that violent state. Everyone talks about terrible twos, but it's worse when they are in the 3 yr old range. It's hard but you have to "stay calm and carry on" as they say. It's all about their mental state. Remember, the age of reason is 7 so, until then it's best to try and distract them and make them forget about why they might me angry. I always walk away if distracting them doesn't work. My son will yell, scream, throw punches, scratch kick the whole nine yards but, if I walk away and "ignore" him he realizes hes not getting any attention or reaction and he stops. Give them space and they will forget why they are angry.
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beauty wrote:
Advice of the almighty Beauty.http://m.npr.org/news/Health/143062378
A great study reported on NPR may offer you so help. If the link doesn't work, just search for "NPR tantrum" and you will find it.
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TurfToe👣 wrote:
That's pretty good advice.Father of 2 here. Smacking or spanking my children is the last resort as they learn from the parents. As a previous posted said try to distract them or make them laugh. Get them out of that violent state. Everyone talks about terrible twos, but it's worse when they are in the 3 yr old range. It's hard but you have to "stay calm and carry on" as they say. It's all about their mental state. Remember, the age of reason is 7 so, until then it's best to try and distract them and make them forget about why they might me angry. I always walk away if distracting them doesn't work. My son will yell, scream, throw punches, scratch kick the whole nine yards but, if I walk away and "ignore" him he realizes hes not getting any attention or reaction and he stops. Give them space and they will forget why they are angry.
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No it isn't. U r teaching them that there are no repercussions for bad or violent behavior.
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Mackmech(addKM) wrote:
Did you not read that spanking or smacking is a last resort? I believe that would be the repercussions. Correct?No it isn't. U r teaching them that there are no repercussions for bad or violent behavior.
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Hitting a child just teaches them it's ok to be violent. I never spanked or smacked my children and don't find it necessary.
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I was an ornery little 💩 as a kid. My mom told me she could seriously understand why parents beat their children because of me. When she was pregnant with my brother she prayed for a girl bc she thought all boys would be like me. I remember her losing her patience and getting mad. As a father of a 2 yr old girl who got her temperament from her father I try to leave a laying impression on her that I hope she will want to emulate. When she throws a tantrum I stay calm and never raise my voice (its hard for me bc I've got over 8 yrs of active duty in the military and we like to yell). I don't try to reason with her bc she's only two. I do stand my ground and if I've made a rule it is set in stone. I try to always give options - one positive consequence and one negative - so she will learn to make choices.
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I think spanking is rarely (not never) nessasary. My father spanked me but never when it was in the heat of the situation. He would tell me it was coming and when things calmed down he'd have a talk and explain why it was wrong whatever I had done and how many shacks I'd get. I got a hug everytime after. Just stay patient and let him know he can't get to you and he'll eventually give up. The best hugs I get from my daughter are after she has had a fit. Hope that helps.
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Ojibwe wrote:
I was hit everytime I was naughty or disrespectful. I'm the complete opposite of violent...Hitting a child just teaches them it's ok to be violent. I never spanked or smacked my children and don't find it necessary.
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ChristyMesa wrote:
Google "Love and Logic." We use it in our school district and it's effective.I have noticed that there are many parents on TW. A such, thought it might be a good idea to get some advice about parenting. My darling son is almost 3 but he has the worst tantrums, kicking, biting, scratching, throwing food and making demands. It's at the point I don't know what to do because I can't control him. Any advice?
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Moderation in all things. I'm not a parent. And I'm not blaming mine. But part of me going off the deep end was being a spoiled ass brat wanting to do whatever the hell i wanted and thinking I could do it. I had amazing parents, and I was over all a good kid, but damnit when I was angry and really wanted something I did it. I bet if I had just got my ass (not my face) beat a few times when I needed it, I would have had better respect for the cause and effect behind throwing tantrums and how instant gratification isn't always best.
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Cap all his turfs.👍
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When he throws a tantrum ignore him till he stops. If u have given in, in the past he wil go on quite long, expecting u to give in. They can cry for 1-4 hrs. But dont give in they need to learn that by doing something u don't like (tantrums or crying) that they won't get there way ... If they throw one at the mall, take him to the car and sit there till he's done. If u give him a threat ie keep it up and no desert or I'm taking u home or whatever the case may be. You must follow threw on ur threat.
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Analyzing situation. Recording data. Formulating opinion. Using reference, "Colonial American Days." Begin opinion:
Quite honestly, it is interesting to see these replies, because in Colonial days and whatnot, 6 year olds were considered too old to cry. And they got whipped with a switch, which I can be sure hurt a lot more than what we use todays. And the teacher could paddle them with a wooden paddle. All the kids did what their parents told them to do. Have we grown soft or something?
End opinion.
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