Parents "vs" non parents opinion
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MᎧᏓᎧ 🔨🔥💀 wrote:
Well said, no matter what era we live in their will always be "undesirable" influence and such that any parent will wantto protecttheir child from, but as u said a well loved and balanced kid should take everything I'm his/her stride....I think that if a parent puts all of their energy into "raising" their children, then songs like that one (and worse) won't have a chance in hell of influencing the child.
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մӀԵɾɑ 🔨🔥💀 wrote:
Catch 22 tho, u want them to stay innocent, but in the world today it pays for them to be aware(fine balance and that's why parenting it hard)Parental opinion: I think it's inappropriate for the age group. My six year old would listen to every word. And yes...he'd ask me, "Momma what would I want to stick my hand in my pants for?" (if that topic had not already come up elsewhere). And other questions as well. He likes to understand things--gets distressed when he doesn't. I talk openly with him about sex, but he's six and I'd like him to be six and in that childish/innocent/ whatever-you-want-to-call it frame of mind as long as possible. He'll eventually be bombarded by those things and I'll have no control over it--nor will I want to. But at that age there's something young and whole and untarnished that I really want to protect as long as possible.
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Age 21, not a parent. Are you really questioning Bruno Mars song The lazy song? It is just a friendly song, if you look deeper into it you can even interpret it as whatever makes you happy is what I'd best. Honestly though there are far worst songs out there.
Besides should it not be the parents job to educate what is right and what is wrong?
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And sticking my hand down my pants.. It's for warmth haha.
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I'm still trying to get over my school playing Soulja Boy at field day. "superman that hoe" is something k-5th graders don't need to know about.
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I Looked that song up.
Its shit, no one should listen to it anyway
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Ghetto Monstazz wrote:
I agree but that isn't the discussion hereI Looked that song up.
Its shit, no one should listen to it anyway
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The video is funny.
kids see and hear much worse than this.
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U should have pulled a Hanson brothers and speedbagged the DJ
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I have a 10 year old Daughter and we don't let her listen to this douche bag. She, and her classmates, are becoming aware of the word "sex" as an activity that adults do with other adults, but without knowing the details of the activity. They will be learning that soon enough and I don't want her think that it's Regular to meet a guy just to go have sex because he is board.
I would have confronted the DJ and asked him or her to pull that from the play list.
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Big Jake wrote:
This.@iks. You'd be surprised what a four year old can understand. And repeat. I have been and continue to be on numerous occasions to my detriment usually.
I'm pretty good about watching my mouth, but others around him aren't always. My 4 year old will tell you "don't let me hear you say a word called 'shit'". Its half hilarious & half breaks my heart.
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The Rhino wrote:
I agree completely. I think our society is very uptight for the most part compared to other areas of the world when it comes to sex. I do think that it should be something that is discussed & addressed based on maturity level. Certainly not a conversation that I feel a 3, 4 or 5 year old are prepared to deal with. There are many ways of temporarily getting around this with limited information discussions, deflection, etc. None of this was really what I was looking at though. I grew up in a very open household in which anything we had questions about was discussed and answered as openly & honestly as possible. I hope to be able to offer the same environment to my children.Meh, personally I think sex is too much a taboo in our culture. ....
The issue is not whether or not playing the song would actually do any harm or what else out there is worse, it's more about the appropriateness of the song in this particular environment. -
🎀BadMammaJamma wrote:
My 2 year old daughter says "fuck," but almost never in context. Except when she gets mad. Just like her parents. Still waiting for someone from the nursery to pull me aside and ask where she learned it.Big Jake wrote:
This.@iks. You'd be surprised what a four year old can understand. And repeat. I have been and continue to be on numerous occasions to my detriment usually.
I'm pretty good about watching my mouth, but others around him aren't always. My 4 year old will tell you "don't let me hear you say a word called 'shit'". Its half hilarious & half breaks my heart.
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I will tell you how we chose to handle it. My wife looked up the lyrics on her Iphone & discretely spoke to the DJ and asked him if he was aware that the song he had just played as inappropiate for the audience due to the lyrics. The DJ's response was, "Did I offend your infant mam?" My wife was obviously a bit perturbed and showed him the lyrics and in particular the sex line. She responded, telling him that the infant wasn't the concern but the older kids were who at the very least repeat most things they hear, especially things put to music. The DJ's response was that he was sorry but...it was next to impossible to find something that wasn't inappropriate that is also popular and that the kids would like.
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JayDee wrote:
"Meet a really nice girl, have some really nice sexAge 21, not a parent. Are you really questioning Bruno Mars song The lazy song? It is just a friendly song, if you look deeper into it you can even interpret it as whatever makes you happy is what I'd best. Honestly though there are far worst songs out there.
Besides should it not be the parents job to educate what is right and what is wrong?
And she's gonna scream out: 'This is Great'"
How else would you interpret that -
Ok even if you guys can censor music, what are you going to do about word of mouth? When I was younger I learned about sex and cuss words from friends/classmates. I feel like you guys are blowing this all out of proportion. It is just a fun song nothing to serious, you know what I mean?
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JayDee wrote:
Wooo, Wooo, Wooo...No one is talking about censoring music. People should be allowed to make whatever shit as noise they wanna call music they damn well please. My issue is not that this music exists, it's that someone chose to expose an audience to it that in my oppinion, it was not intended for.Ok even if you guys can censor music, what are you going to do about word of mouth? When I was younger I learned about sex and cuss words from friends/classmates. I feel like you guys are blowing this all out of proportion. It is just a fun song nothing to serious, you know what I mean?
I respect the fact that you don't see anything wrong with this. This is what I was looking for in this thread originally. I.E. the title of the thread. -
JayDee wrote:
I know exactly what you mean, but you're not a parent.Ok even if you guys can censor music, what are you going to do about word of mouth? When I was younger I learned about sex and cuss words from friends/classmates. I feel like you guys are blowing this all out of proportion. It is just a fun song nothing to serious, you know what I mean?
You don't sit there looking at your three yr old playing and wonder, did I teach her the right thing today? Will I be able to answer her questions tomorrow in a way she'll understand? Will she follow my advice and teaching as she gets older and apply them to her school life? And later when she moves away to school or work? And then when she finally does start to do her own thing you hope and pray that you don't get a visit from a policeman at 3 am at your front door with "that" news. It all starts somewhere. Parents suffer/worry so much, but some kids just don't understand why. -
Oh and I agree, bad song for a family event.
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Its a few bad lines in a song. The kids probably didn't even hear it, and even if they did they would most likely not remember. If they ask you " what does bruno mars mean when he says he'll have really nice sex with a girl," say sex is a bad word and that its a grown up only line. That should make them forget about it. And anyways, I love that song, so does my mom she has it as the song that plays to you when you call her. Lol.
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joezingg:) wrote:
Saying something is forbidden makes it even more fun for little kids to say.Its a few bad lines in a song. The kids probably didn't even hear it, and even if they did they would most likely not remember. If they ask you " what does bruno mars mean when he says he'll have really nice sex with a girl," say sex is a bad word and that its a grown up only line. That should make them forget about it. And anyways, I love that song, so does my mom she has it as the song that plays to you when you call her. Lol.
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🎀BadMammaJamma wrote:
Yesterday I said, "Oh shoot!" when I passed my exit. 6yo informed me that it sounded like I said "shit." Then proceeded to tell me what other "ok words" I could use for "fuck, damn, etc. etc." 8-9 lovely substitutions.Big Jake wrote:
This.@iks. You'd be surprised what a four year old can understand. And repeat. I have been and continue to be on numerous occasions to my detriment usually.
I'm pretty good about watching my mouth, but others around him aren't always. My 4 year old will tell you "don't let me hear you say a word called 'shit'". Its half hilarious & half breaks my heart.
So "dang" it, I'm gonna kill the mother"fudge"r that keeps teaching him this "crap."
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👆👆I think the sarcasm lite is blinking.
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as a musician I don't believe in censoring music. as a parent, I believe in guiding your kids to develop a better taste in music then that garbage. it's not the words or the context but that song sucks. and kids are gonna put their hands down their pants whether or not they hear it in a song.
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I can remember when I saw a seven year old sing lady gagas disco stick song
Omg this beat is sick. I wanna take a ride on your disco stick!
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I think what Rhino says sounds reasonable. I can't control (hoping to have one soon) my kid; however, I am hoping that if I have intelligent discussion of matters, sharing my concerns and offering and showing real life evidence, with my children I can share my opinion and hopefully give them advice they can take forward as they grow and avoid trouble.
Of course, I will have control as long as possible. I think keeping kids busy and active also seems to help. Giving them opportunities to take on responsibility when they can earns respect when rewarded. I look for opportunities to reward kids for good decision making.
Parenting is tough. I am hoping my previous professional experience with kids helps. Fingers crossed.
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As a staff member in a Boy Scout camp I would get in a lot of heat if I had played that song. That being said, it is definitely not ok to play that song with children who are eight or younger.
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@Twisted Logic
The video is what makes this song genius. Hes getting rich off of people buying music that he wrote in 5 mins and he knows it. He's making fun of everyone who takes it seriously. Every line in this song is a joke. He's also saying sorry pops I'm not getting a degree because I don't need one. I'm making millions and having fun doing it.It's not his job to be a role model or set an example. Its his job to produce music. It's your job as a parent to teach your kids, not expect someone on tv to do it for you.
I mean look at Elvis, omfg pelvic movement? The sky is falling the sky is falling!!! Everyone freaked out and now it's nothing. People will constantly push boundaries and we will continue to become desensitized. One day this song won't mean shit.
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Don't take it so seriously. He forsure doesn't take this song seriously.
There's song on the radio that say, bitch, shit, and other words and people are freaking out over the word sex? Come on. It's 2011.
Too immature for adults? I must have missed the notice that says the day you become an adult you lies all sense of humor and become a serious prude.
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Kozy wrote:
It's not a question of whether or not the song or video should have Bren made. The question is about the appropriateness of the sing being played in this particular setting. I agree with you on the point that it is up to my wife & I as parents to teach them right & wrong, what is & isn't appropriate and how to protect themselves along with having as much fun as they can possibly have in life. I hope I'm my children's roll model. I can't shelter them from the world nor would I want to.@Twisted Logic
...It's not his job to be a role model or set an example. Its his job to produce music. It's your job as a parent to teach your kids, not expect someone on tv to do it for you.
"appropriate" is arbitrary & depends on each persons expectations. There is no right or wrong answer here.
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