Selfharming.
Forums › General Discussion › Selfharming.-
Right , so at school,theres this girl who i'm friendly with , who seems really happy. But the night before last , she slit her wrists and had to go to hospital. I have 2 questions. 1. If theyre has been any selfharmers in the TW forum , why did you do it?and 2. Attetion seeking or cry for help?
-
I've never done it and never would but my next door neighbour is in her teens and she does it and when i ask her about it she says its because she feels so much emotional pain the physical pain stops the emotional pain? I think its all in the persons head, if they think they feel better they will :/
-
Also there is a girl in my class who does it but for her at least, i think its just attention seeking as she tells everyone about it and wears clothes that expose the cuts so i think it depends on the personality and mental strength of the person.
-
Attention seeking...
-
A lot of self abuse goes hand in hand with mental and personality disorders such as Manic-Depressive (Bi-Polar) and Borderline Personality Disorder. The real help to these people is usually teaching them better coping skills to deal with life and stress. Also therapy and friends help a lot, but the disorders can often damage relations with friends and hinder people from seeking help... I've heard the exact same though from someone before - 'too much emotional pain, the physical pain helps relieve it' - I don't like that response though...
-
Too much emo bullshit music.
-
A person who has had a history of being mentally and physically abused will also cut or harm themselves, as a way to relieve their mental pain with physical pain. My sister was/is a cutter, shes not above doing it for attention. Shes so used to it that it doesnt bother her at all. My girlfriend used to be a cutter, i've been with her over a year now and she hasn't cut in a long time. She sometimes also has trouble expressing her feelings which can also lead to cutting. But i always talk with her and help her through whatever is troubling her. From what you said, the girl you care about has probably been a cutter all along and just hasn't found a reason to cutt until now. Something could of triggered it. So i wouldnt go so far as to say shes looking for attention, because if thats the case she would have done it much sooner. If you can find out whats troubling her, if what i said is the case it'd probably would be best if she got some help with it.
-
georgee wrote:
"If they think they feel better, they will." That's very dismissive & not how it works. I'm don't cut myself & have never tried to kill myself, but I do suffer from anxiety & depression. How nice it would be to just decide not to feel depressed.I've never done it and never would but my next door neighbour is in her teens and she does it and when i ask her about it she says its because she feels so much emotional pain the physical pain stops the emotional pain? I think its all in the persons head, if they think they feel better they will :/
-
*I don't
-
I personally feel that anyone who attempts to kill themselves is Selfish! Don't get me wrong I feel for the people that feel it's necessary but do they actually think that by doing this that their family and friends would be better off without them! They should think about the pain they would be putting them through.....
-
There are worst people in the world who don't have the choice of being able live
-
Just because someone's happy on the outside does not mean they are happy on the inside, I don't think she was 'attention seeking' In a bad sense otherwise she would have been telling everyone left right and centre before doing it, but it sounds like it was a cry for help, she obv needs someone to talk to, whether u wanna be that person or not it sounds like she's screaming for help.
She could even be bipolar but I dunno my ex was bipolar and they burned Down someone's house but they never self harmed
-
It's bot usually a sign of attention seeking. Like was pointed out could be a sign of being bipolar. In which case it sucks as there's mi cure and you're stuck with it for life.
-
having BPD, some form of self harm is part of the requirements for diagnosis. I started cutting around age 9 and stopped when I was 17. I rarely got caught, so it certainly wasn't for attention. I came from an abused background and had a shitty self image.
I've been asked if my tattoos and piercings are synonymous with self-mutilation. For me, these come from a place of (non-onanistic) self-love. they are a celebration of my body.
the masochistic nature of my career is suspect.
-
I also think there's a difference between cutting and slitting one's wrists. cutters keep injury relatively superficial, with the intent to continue.
there are jokes about the "right way" and "wrong way" of slitting one's wrists for purposes of suicide. I tend to think they're both relatively attention seeking methods of feigning death. even if the person's motivation is a cry for help. I mean really, who's died from slitting their wrists?
-
Marky G wrote:
There is a big difference between cutting urself and attempting suicide! It sounds like she needs to talk to someone rather than bottle it up inside, offer urself as an outlet for her to chat to if she feels able toI personally feel that anyone who attempts to kill themselves is Selfish! Don't get me wrong I feel for the people that feel it's necessary but do they actually think that by doing this that their family and friends would be better off without them! They should think about the pain they would be putting them through.....
-
Marky G wrote:
You don't know how much pain depression issues can cause.I personally feel that anyone who attempts to kill themselves is Selfish! Don't get me wrong I feel for the people that feel it's necessary but do they actually think that by doing this that their family and friends would be better off without them! They should think about the pain they would be putting them through.....
-
That's true and I can't say that surely it's not enough to realise the hurt he/she would leave on the people's faces who they leave behind. If I'm honest I have been a little judgmental on this subject as I don't know anyone who has been in this position. I guess I'm looking at it from my point of view and how I would feel if that individual left me behind.
-
Yes I would be devastated that they decided to take their life but I would also think it's a little selfish. Once again, I really shouldn't have commented as I know no one in this situation. Apologies if I offended anyone!
-
No offense. Just saying.
-
I understand! But can see if my comment did offend sone people if not yourself! Thanks for your input though, always knowledgeable ;-)
-
On a serious note. Self harming is very damaging. I've known people who do it/have done it. Very difficult for them to realise they have people who care about them and 'let them in to help them'. Sometimes it's the pain from the harm that takes their mind off the issues or it's the only thing they feel. Like their normal emotion is 'numb' but they feel 'alive' when they self harm.
Hope I didn't offend anyone. It's definitely a serious issue and I wouldn't ever mock people suffering with it.
-
But why do it? Isnt there like hotlines to deal with his kinda stuff and give advice/support?
-
RetardedPanda wrote:
Most times those don't do anything. There really is no real help out thereBut why do it? Isnt there like hotlines to deal with his kinda stuff and give advice/support?
-
Belial wrote:
Thats the very sad truthRetardedPanda wrote:
Most times those don't do anything. There really is no real help out thereBut why do it? Isnt there like hotlines to deal with his kinda stuff and give advice/support?
-
JohnnySledge wrote:
Nah it's not. There is help out there. I don't want people who may suffer to be trapped by my own feelings. There are lots of solutions.Belial wrote:
Thats the very sad truthRetardedPanda wrote:
Most times those don't do anything. There really is no real help out thereBut why do it? Isnt there like hotlines to deal with his kinda stuff and give advice/support?
-
Its control.. Mentally, people who cut arent suicidal coz if u are ud already have sliced your jugular.. Cutting wrists is a form of control..to feel that they are in control of all that is goin on with them..its basically a form of coping in its most extreme form..
-
In response to MARKY G:
Uhh it's much more selfish to take away a person's fundamental right to their own life and to force them to live each day in unbearable pain and anguish. Face the truth - for some people these type of issues don't go away, no matter how many shrinks or pills. I blame this on the stigma still heavily attached to psychological and emotional issues (they are labeled "mental" to benefit the pharmaceutical industry - but of course there ARE exceptions!). The realm of dark human emotions, hidden for eons from plain view, has emerged from the forest to reveal only a little toe....okay, maybe an ankle. Until humans accept realities they consider taboo, people will continue to suffer endlessly, and they will continue feeling hope knowing that suicide may be their only relief. I totally understand them.
Homo sapiens+taboos=the species' demise; in whatever form.
Whew, I'm done!!
![[][]](https://turfwarsapp.com/img/app/ajax-forbutton.gif)
Purchase Respect Points NEW! · Support · Turf Map · Terms · Privacy
©2021 MeanFreePath LLC