What the hell
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So I try to have a conversation with my dad today. He says the best type of power is in your relationships. I said I know, because of my experience with people in past years.
My mom says "no, you don't know. You haven't been around long enough to know that.
I reply by saying that I have heard it before.
She says, your just a loudmouth. Go away.
I snapped. Said "don't treat me like a little kid anymore."
She said I was grounded and took my fucking computer.
This type of shit has been going on for months. I'm so tired of it. Why the fuck does she think I don't know anything? I'm still treated like a five year old.
I'm criticized every day. If there's nothing outright she finds something.
Does anybody have any advice? I'm so fucking tired of this and I don't know what to do. 🙎 -
Smile and nod. Best advice ever
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I'm tired of complying. I'm tired of telling them I'm sorry. Because it's bullshit. Pure bullshit
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Belial wrote:
That's what I always doSmile and nod. Best advice ever
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Have a deep talk with her.
Maybe she just wants to see you as a little kid or her view of you is warped a little OR she could be going through something herself.
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Its a matter of pushing the right buttons at the right time, and noticing when she complies with you to see what works.
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🔫🌊🗻Benny DaBOSS wrote:
True that. Act like you don't care and just say "Meh" to everything she says.Belial wrote:
That's what I always doSmile and nod. Best advice ever
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Do drugs that always gets their attention.
(Jk don't do drugs)
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Let me give you some background-
My mom and dad are ATM trying to figure out finances. My dad thought it would be beneficial to allow me to listen and join in.
I have gotten to this point 3 times in the same number of months. I've attempted to have "deep conversations" with her. She blows it off and says, you'll learn when you have kids.
WTF IS THAT?!?
I have perfect grades, a spotless highschool record, am really good at tennis, and yet she thinks I'm lazy. She demands four times as much out of me as she does everyone else -
Σмקεяφг ќ🔫🌊🗻 wrote:
if she's seeing this attitude, she may be right! Part of the fun of growing up is learning all the stuff that will make you a successful adult. The down side is getting credit for it, and that goes for parents, work, relationships etc. So if your still pissed off that they don't see you the way you see you, then you are still young mentally! Don't let peoples perception of you (good or bad) change who you want to be, cause she's turning you into a walking temper tantrum!I'm tired of complying. I'm tired of telling them I'm sorry. Because it's bullshit. Pure bullshit
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I feel happy knowing I'm not alone. I can say all the same things you can.
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originalbones wrote:
That's not what I'm saying. I am tired of coming home each and every day to at least four criticismsΣмקεяφг ќ🔫🌊🗻 wrote:
if she's seeing this attitude, she may be right! Part of the fun of growing up is learning all the stuff that will make you a successful adult. The down side is getting credit for it, and that goes for parents, work, relationships etc. So if your still pissed off that they don't see you the way you see you, then you are still young mentally! Don't let peoples perception of you (good or bad) change who you want to be, cause she's turning you into a walking temper tantrum!I'm tired of complying. I'm tired of telling them I'm sorry. Because it's bullshit. Pure bullshit
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How old are u?
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As innocent as saying "I know" seems, it is actually rather insulting and makes you seem like your not considering what they are trying to tell you. I agree that a simple nod gets you further.
Also, a great quote: "there is one way to guarantee failure and that is to try to please evryone."
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Get used to it man cause it doesn't stop! Wait till you hit the real world and Soo many people you can easily knock out flap their lips nonstop! Take your moms criticism as training, take the good stuff and nod n zip it for the rest!
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32🔫🌊🗻 wrote:
I feel happy knowing I'm not alone. I can say all the same things you can.
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The TenderLoin wrote:
I just can't keep up like this. Nodding worked for a while. Until she said "why dont you ever talk to me?"As innocent as saying "I know" seems, it is actually rather insulting and makes you seem like your not considering what they are trying to tell you. I agree that a simple nod gets you further.
Also, a great quote: "there is one way to guarantee failure and that is to try to please evryone."
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Σмקεяφг ќ🔫🌊🗻 wrote:
my mom used to tell me to shut the fuck up. So I'd stop talking to her and nod. Shed get pissed. I'd suggest you do alittle of both, say yea, ok, or nod. All you can do.The TenderLoin wrote:
I just can't keep up like this. Nodding worked for a while. Until she said "why dont you ever talk to me?"As innocent as saying "I know" seems, it is actually rather insulting and makes you seem like your not considering what they are trying to tell you. I agree that a simple nod gets you further.
Also, a great quote: "there is one way to guarantee failure and that is to try to please evryone."
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Move out thats what i did when i got tires of " their " rules
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Dude! 1st calm down. I know it's hard and I been thru the same BS you're experiencing. Just keep up with your life screw their complains, don't pay attention to their criticism. Isolate your good world from their hellhole. It's not easy but once you stop taking them too seriously I'm sure you'll be ok and she will also improve
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Also keep in mind your obligations. Be clear with your ideas and your self. Who cares if they don't agree, it's your life and you will one day live adult life. meaning that parent crap will end
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Stop acting like a little girl. This type of talk shows the kind of kid you are. Learn to control yourself. Learn to express your feelings.
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My advice to all kids is do what your parents ask you to do the first time. Because in the end you're going to do it anyway so skip all the arguing.
Parents have a hard time realizing that you are close to being an adult with opinions of your own; however, I say that most teens don't know nearly as much as you think you do. You'll see when you are your parents age
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This is fking sad!!! Getting This kind of advice on a goddam tw forum.... Why dont you call dr.phil or oprah... Suck it up kid!! Its called Life!! Now Heres a brand new pair of shoes.. Hope it makes you feel better 😭😭😭😭
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This makes me sad for you in that you may feel unappreciated. You cannot force anyone, even a parent, to appreciate you or understand you. Time will win in the end. Try to think of your mom just like another person. Everyone messes up, makes a bad call, overlooks something, has a bad day, bad month, bad year. It may not be right for her to be hard on you like she is, but it's also not right for you to forget she's only human and probably doing the best she can...even if she doesn't meet your standard. (just like you aren't meeting hers) There is no easy answer.
In the meantime, did you thank your dad for inviting you to the grown up conversation? Seems to me he is including you in a positive way. Make sure he knows you are thankful for that.
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Σмקεяφг ќ🔫🌊🗻 wrote:
honest to godI'm tired of complying. I'm tired of telling them I'm sorry. Because it's bullshit. Pure bullshit
You don't know shit. Get used to it.
Someone will always be around to tell you what to do. Get used to it.
You're cryin they took your video games away on an Internet video game forum, so clearly it was ineffective enough of a punishment that you still manage entertainment without Starcraft. -
🔫🌊🗻Benny DaBOSS wrote:
Yep same. Its the best thing to do ever, I'd take belial's advice.Belial wrote:
That's what I always doSmile and nod. Best advice ever
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It sounds to me like your mom has separation anxiety. She is seeing you grow up and is losing control over your life. For some parents, after however many years of basically controlling your every movement, have a hard time letting the leash out. If you want to be treated like an adult then speak to them like one. Don't bitch and say stop treating me like a child because if they can ground you then you are a child.
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i moved out on my 18th bday. from that day forward I was an adult and my parental units treated me as such. until then... it doesn't feel great but the powerful are those holding the purse strings. take care.
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