Family member death

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capo man Dec 8, 2013

So last night one of my family members passes away in there sleep.

I'm full of grief and regret for not spending much time with him.

How can I get over it
4nick8r Dec 8, 2013

Time heals, or at least numbs. Talking helps too. It may help to talk to others who were able to spend the time. Find out as much as you can that you may not have known. I lost my dad this summer and it helped to hear stories from people who were closer to him than I was. It almost made me feel like I had spent more time with him, even though he lived 2000 miles away.
DC ONE Dec 8, 2013

Sorry to hear that capo bud. As 4nick said, time is a great healer I wish I'd spent more time with my grandfather before he passed but in time you will remember all the good times with that person that you had and it will get easier
clint crawford Dec 8, 2013

Sorry For your loss. I lost a son and went to a support group there I met people that also had all kinds of different losses parents, children etc...
I like that. My wife liked Internet chat lines but that's not for me.
Time does help but will never totally take away the pain
You never can move on , only move forward.
SOSA™ Dec 8, 2013

My condolences bud
capo man Dec 8, 2013

Thanks for the support guys. It's really helped me.
I guess if got to try to take my mind off it
☫🐓O JONES 2.0☫ Dec 8, 2013

Just do other stuff like hobbies or somethin
_Gray_ Dec 8, 2013

My little sister passed 2 years 3months 4 days ago. I feel for you.it's something you can never fully get over. I find that this helps: at night, picture re living the day you just had. But add the person you lost in. What they would have said, jokes they would have told. Ect.
Hyena Dec 8, 2013

My condolences on your loss.
⌖🔥Groucho🔥⌖ Dec 8, 2013

Sorry to hear about your loss. The first feelings that come to any of our minds when a loved one passes, is how much we miss them and how we will not be able to make up for time we feel we should have spent with them, which leads to regret.

When those thoughts come flooding in, which they will often, add to them a memory of a good time you spent with your loved one. Think of trips you went on or a movie you saw together, and watch it again. Think of laughs you shared and the joy that it brought in the moment. Remember the loving times spent together.

It's impossible to cover the deep pain of grief, but for every sad thought you have, choose to remember a happy time with them. Over time, as grief starts to lessen, the warm memories will comfort you and other family members as you share your memories with them as well.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

-G and BR
Glock 45 Dec 8, 2013

👆👆Well said 👆👆
٥ه༜ه٥ Dec 9, 2013

⌖🔥Groucho🔥⌖ wrote:
Sorry to hear about your loss. The first feelings that come to any of our minds when a loved one passes, is how much we miss them and how we will not be able to make up for time we feel we should have spent with them, which leads to regret.

When those thoughts come flooding in, which they will often, add to them a memory of a good time you spent with your loved one. Think of trips you went on or a movie you saw together, and watch it again. Think of laughs you shared and the joy that it brought in the moment. Remember the loving times spent together.

It's impossible to cover the deep pain of grief, but for every sad thought you have, choose to remember a happy time with them. Over time, as grief starts to lessen, the warm memories will comfort you and other family members as you share your memories with them as well.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

-G and BR

This. 👆 My sincerest condolences.
Clyde601 Dec 9, 2013

Sorry for you loss man. You shouldn't try to get over it as fast as you can. The grieving process is natural. Just try to remember how that person influenced your life positively and try to be the same kind of person to someone else. Best of luck to you man.