Sometimes you wonder just what next... 😓
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Ok well the last 72 hours were something different and not in a good way. For me it started after a Christmas function. I'm walking to the train station and look at my phone, missed a text message from my wife, her father (who has cancer) has taken a turn for the worse. I rush home late and the wife explains he was found collapsed in his apartment and is now in hospital (5 hours away). She drives down the next morning (in our only car) and I stay with the kids.
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I contact grandma (my side) and organise to borrow her car the next day as I need to take my eldest daughter to hospital to have a cast removed from her broken arm. Get to work, fill in the boss and organise for the next day off. I'm keeping in touch with the wife and it's not good news but she is with him and her brother in the hospital. 1:45 I receive a call, my father-in-law has passed away. A kinder and more gentle soul I don't think I ever met and I am glad the children got to see him one last time a couple of weeks ago.
2:15pm, my mother calls, she is having chest pains and her doctor told her to call an ambulance. I ask if she has and she advises she hasn't yet.... -
I leave work and head to My mothers to collect her car. I choose to collect the children first that way they aren't stuck at childcare. Only problem is I can't get hold of my mother on the phone...
Eventually she calls me, she has no coverage inside the hospital. They are running tests and it looks like they won't finish until late.
I get hold of my wife and she is heading down to her fathers (7 hours away) to clean his place a bit and ensure everything is off. She decides to stay down there the night, thank god her cousin lives in the same town.
Now it's late at night and I can't get to either my wife or mother as I have the kids.
My mother calls and advises they are keeping her in overnight and she will go home tomorrow morning.
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Next day it's up and running, breakfast for the kids, dressed now quick shower and dressed myself. I take the youngest to childcare and rush the eldest to the hospital in peak hour traffic to get her cast removed.
Speak with my wife, she is sad but ok, will catch up with her brother on the way home.
Speak with my mother she is still in the hospital awaiting more tests.
Get to the hospital and have the cast removed, see the doctor and he gave us some exercises to stretch the muscles so she can regain mobility in her elbow.
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Driving back home, I'm talking with my daughter and she advises she wants to go to pre-school and see her friends. Was hoping to have quality daddy daughter time but if that's what she wants that's ok, I plan to clean the house and see my mother.
Arrive home, grab everything out of the car, head inside and dump it on the kitchen bench. My daughter wants to go to the toilet so we do that, wash hands, grab her bag and I lock the door as I pull it shut behind me...
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Oh shit, I left the keys to both the house and car on the kitchen bench. It's 37' C. I call my wife, she will be able to get home about 5:00, it's currently 10:30.... I try calling my mother, no connection still.
I tell my daughter we will have to walk to pre-school, but if she wants she can stay with me. I tell her we can catch a bus to the shops, see if there is a movie, and do some shopping. She decides to come with me.
We actually had a great day shopping for a Xmas present for her sister, and playing with Lego in Legoland but I'm scared to use the phone as the battery may die.
We head home about 4:00 and arrive at 4:30, wife arrives home with our youngest 15 minutes later. She is exhausted.
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I get hold of my mother she is still in hospital but should be out soon. We agree that it would be best for her to come and spend the night with us, so I get in the car and drive to the hospital to collect her. Next back to her house for clothes and to feed her cat. Now a quick stop at the shops for some flowers for my wife.
Dinner for the kids, bathed, story and putting them down. Why of all nights it took multiple tantrums and an hour and a half for them to fall asleep I don't know.
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Give my wife a cuddle at last and return a couple of calls as my wife isn't up to it.
Next morning, youngest's Pre-School Xmas party/concert. She is so excited until we get there, then nothing. She sits on my lap with a sad expression the whole time. Give her lots of cuddles and after the concert and party (fairy bread helps) she is back to her usual effervescent self. Unfortunately my wife couldn't attend as she was with our eldest and had asked for photo's and video of our youngest at the concert. Got what I could the headed into work....
I'm sure others have had worse but wow I feel a bit beat up emotionally at the moment.
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Don't worry we all have days,weeks,months like that.Just keep your head up,things always get better.
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⌖🔥ཧ़ཀंེབ།༨ཛყ🔥⌖ wrote:
Thanks Smokey, will do.Don't worry we all have days,weeks,months like that.Just keep your head up,things always get better.
At the moment for me it's just being there for my wife, keeping track of my mother and keeping the kids happy.
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⌖🔥ཧ़ཀंེབ།༨ཛყ🔥⌖ wrote:
Couldn't have said it betterDon't worry we all have days,weeks,months like that.Just keep your head up,things always get better.
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Just make sure you take a bit of time for yourself if possible. When you are the one 'being strong' for everyone else it's easy to forget that you need to look after yourself as well or you'll end up being neither use nor ornament. Best wishes to you and your family.
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Firstly Hyena my friend,I am sorry to hear of the passing away of your wife's father.May he rest in peace.It has been a frantic and stressful time.I do so hope your Mother gets better soon.times like this are to be dreaded and would seem to come all at once.You have done very well.Try not to sweat the small stuff; that will take care of itself.Just to be there for your family is enough.Also try to get some 'you' time in order to help process all that has happened.I shall have you all in my prayers.Your friend,Vish.
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Sorry for your families loss. Hyena sounds like your a great son,husband and father all rolled into one. Keep of the great work. Your a great rolemodel for your children
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Sorry to hear about everything going on Hyena. Hang in there my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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I feel your pain man. We (myself and my girlfriend) had a pretty rough day yesterday with her mam passing away.
Stay strong man, but be sure to have some time to yourself. I've just ran the missus a bath and I'm going to blast the crap out of something on Xbox while listening to The Haunted. That should keep thing right. 😉
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Sorry for your loss and be glad for of all the family you have around you. Life is hectic and fragile. Always remember to kiss the ones you love and tell them you love them. 👍🐢
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Kaͣrͩaͩs wrote:
Sorry to hear it Karas.Good plan to play Xbox.RIP your girlfriend's mam.I feel your pain man. We (myself and my girlfriend) had a pretty rough day yesterday with her mam passing away.
Stay strong man, but be sure to have some time to yourself. I've just ran the missus a bath and I'm going to blast the crap out of something on Xbox while listening to The Haunted. That should keep thing right. 😉
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I actually felt exhausted reading that, can only imagine how you feel. Sorry for your loss pal. I hope things turn around for you and your family soon. It will be a sad Christmas for your poor wife but hopefully one you can enjoy as a family. Youre a good bloke and have always enjoyed your input on TW. Stay strong pal, my thoughts will be with you.
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Sorry to hear the sad news bro, hope you are all well.
We're praying for you all!
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LaTortuga wrote:
Put perfectly 👍Sorry for your loss and be glad for of all the family you have around you. Life is hectic and fragile. Always remember to kiss the ones you love and tell them you love them. 👍🐢
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Sorry for the loss. Hope you get to relax a little soon
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Sorry for your loss. Hope you are all well and take care!
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Hyena my friend so sorry to hear of the passing . As for the other stuff, story if my life as well. If I every see that damn law guy Murphy he is getting a ass kicking. Hang in there if ya new to chat holler
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Thanks for sharing some of your story. Stand strong. You're in our thoughts and prayers.
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😰 I'm exhausted reading this. I feel for ya Hyena. When dealt with lemons, try to make lemonade. Not sure if you believe in a higher power but times like this it really makes you wonder WTF?!?!
As my dad told me before he died, "The good Lord won't give you any more than you can handle."
Keep you head up, family close and be thankful for the hear and now.
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Good luck man
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Thoughts and prayers go out to ya Hyena.. You too brotha K.. Sorry to hear that.
Stay strong for others who cant, its not easy. But we are all here for ya
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Damn man sounds like a rough time, thoughts and prayers to your family, always rough to lose a loved one but over time it gets easier to handle. You ever need anything feel free to ask.
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Yikes Hyena, I'm so sorry to hear this 😢 My condolences on your loss.
Hang in there... The best way I've found is to count the blessings you have in your life...your kids, your wife, your mom.
Keeping you & your family in my thoughts!
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Jeezus Hyena, I was exhausted just reading all of that.... Gotta love it when life throws you curve balls.,sounds like you and your wife have a great relationship and made it through okay. Definitely helps you appreciate the normal times in your life doesn't it?
Glad your mom's okay and sorry to hear about your father-in-law... Hope your wife is handling it well.
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