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〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

Did you or your significant other have to move to be with one another?

How long did you two wait until taking that step?

How many times did you meet up before making the move?

This is for those who met online or through college ect.. and lived hours apart.

I'm going through this right now an require some assistance or input. I know it will all boil down to my own judgement. But hearing others stories may lend a helping hand.

Thanks
ChrisBigBoss Sep 19, 2013

Hey you!
Well this is my story...
Far 10 years we meet us in rhe philippines and we start knowing us...then she said to me that she lives in switzerland too! But totaly on the other and so far away from me! We start knowing us and loving us and later she was my gf. Where we was back in switzerland I goed every week to her (weekend) or sometimes monthly! Trust is so important and patient! After 5 Years when we were old enough we moved together! And yes, we are married :)

Patient is so important! ✌
Bernie Green Sep 19, 2013

ChrisBigBoss wrote:
Hey you!
Well this is my story...
Far 10 years we meet us in rhe philippines and we start knowing us...then she said to me that she lives in switzerland too! But totaly on the other and so far away from me! We start knowing us and loving us and later she was my gf. Where we was back in switzerland I goed every week to her (weekend) or sometimes monthly! Trust is so important and patient! After 5 Years when we were old enough we moved together! And yes, we are married :)

Patient is so important! ✌

Context and grammar are important too...
Ojibwe Sep 19, 2013

Bernie Green wrote:
ChrisBigBoss wrote:
Hey you!
Well this is my story...
Far 10 years we meet us in rhe philippines and we start knowing us...then she said to me that she lives in switzerland too! But totaly on the other and so far away from me! We start knowing us and loving us and later she was my gf. Where we was back in switzerland I goed every week to her (weekend) or sometimes monthly! Trust is so important and patient! After 5 Years when we were old enough we moved together! And yes, we are married :)

Patient is so important! ✌

Context and grammar are important too...
English is his second (or third) language, dumbass.
Ꭱ3V Sep 19, 2013

Bernie Green wrote:
ChrisBigBoss wrote:
Hey you!
Well this is my story...
Far 10 years we meet us in rhe philippines and we start knowing us...then she said to me that she lives in switzerland too! But totaly on the other and so far away from me! We start knowing us and loving us and later she was my gf. Where we was back in switzerland I goed every week to her (weekend) or sometimes monthly! Trust is so important and patient! After 5 Years when we were old enough we moved together! And yes, we are married :)

Patient is so important! ✌

Context and grammar are important too...
Not being a self righteous dickhead is important too.
§αʋcɛ☠BʘՏՏ Sep 19, 2013

Bernie Green wrote:
ChrisBigBoss wrote:
Hey you!
Well this is my story...
Far 10 years we meet us in rhe philippines and we start knowing us...then she said to me that she lives in switzerland too! But totaly on the other and so far away from me! We start knowing us and loving us and later she was my gf. Where we was back in switzerland I goed every week to her (weekend) or sometimes monthly! Trust is so important and patient! After 5 Years when we were old enough we moved together! And yes, we are married :)

Patient is so important! ✌

Context and grammar are important too...
This is why we Americans are generally disliked in the world. There is a world outside of us that surprise surprise speak different languages.
Herp! You need to learn how to speak american better! 'merica.
~Kountra Sep 19, 2013

Bernie Green wrote:
ChrisBigBoss wrote:
Hey you!
Well this is my story...
Far 10 years we meet us in rhe philippines and we start knowing us...then she said to me that she lives in switzerland too! But totaly on the other and so far away from me! We start knowing us and loving us and later she was my gf. Where we was back in switzerland I goed every week to her (weekend) or sometimes monthly! Trust is so important and patient! After 5 Years when we were old enough we moved together! And yes, we are married :)

Patient is so important! ✌

Context and grammar are important too...
Yea you're pretty out of line dude.
🇮🇱Tinea🦶Pedis🇮🇱 Sep 19, 2013

Seeker, do you love this person? Do they love you? How's the sex? Do either of you have a profession that would allow you to find similar work in a new location? Does your partner swallow? Have you ever lived with this person to any capacity previously? Is the other person Spy? I think if you can answer some of these questions, you will have a lot more insight & direction into your dilemma. I think you'll find in the long run though that "moving" out of your mothers basement to the group home down the street in order to be together will probably be less stressful & more of a positive experience all around.
I wish you the best of luck my friend.
And remember, just say 🚫 to the 🐏
🏃💨fartex💩 Sep 19, 2013

My brother has actually been in somewhat the Same situation.
Hè used to drive from ghent(belgium) to Harderwijk(netherlands) to meet his gf.
Driving for about 2hours ( maybe even 3) every chance hè got...
Hè was, and still is totally crazy about her, and they are together for almost 2years...

How things are now:
She moved in with him, and is expecting a daughter( wich will be Born in about 2weeks tops!)

Hè still hates me for making him start playing wow, as without that game they would never have met... 😜😜😜
In the end seeker, it all comes down to 2 things:
Do you both love eachother enough for one to make the "move" and leave parents and friends behind?
And second: who is going to make that move?
🔰ℬཞüęℵǿཞ🔰 Sep 19, 2013

Wheee random story time

I met my girlfriend in an online game, I think it was April 2011.
Her mother was appalled that I even mentioned that I wondered if she could visit over the thanksgiving holiday, but was perfectly accepting about me staying there -_- nutter bahahaha..

Anyway, she lives roughly 1300 miles away :/
so in the 2 1/2 years Weve been together, I've gone to visit her (for a week at a time) 4 times. I do plan on moving to be with her, once I have everything planned out better.. :P lots to think about.
But she's in college for the next 3 years, so there's plenty of time to finish planning
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

ChrisBigBoss wrote:
Hey you!
Well this is my story...
Far 10 years we meet us in rhe philippines and we start knowing us...then she said to me that she lives in switzerland too! But totaly on the other and so far away from me! We start knowing us and loving us and later she was my gf. Where we was back in switzerland I goed every week to her (weekend) or sometimes monthly! Trust is so important and patient! After 5 Years when we were old enough we moved together! And yes, we are married :)

Patient is so important! ✌

Thanks, I'm glad it worked out for you two. Patients is important in all aspects of life......unfortunately. I have my fathers patients. Which means very little lol. But I do see that for something like this. Patients is really important.
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

🏃💨fartex💩 wrote:
We both have very strong feelings for each other. It is still early into the relationship tho.
I would be the one having to move. Which is fine as I've wanted to leave this city for years now, but my house is holding me back. My brother and I got the house together, but he wants to sell too now so it's making it easier to up and leave.

I already live 5 hours from family. But if/when I move, it will add on another few hours to the distance between family.
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

Sabasaul wrote:
And remember, just say 🚫 to the 🐏

I'd say we both have strong feelings for each other, as it is still early in our relationship.

The sex is amazing
We both do, more so me. I've always worked in the trades and do prefer it.

Yes, swallowing has taken place lol.

No we have not lived together before. But if I moved to the same city, it would not be moving in with them right off the bat. I'd just want to be closer so we could actually build a relationship.

Well if they were they would be a horrible one because I knew 😜

I don't live with my parents Saba. I moved out 1 month after graduating. I'm the only of 4 children to move out fast, and not move back in. Lol
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

I just wanted to clerify this a little better. It wouldn't be a move in with them, but just a move to the same city. A chance to spend more time together and build a relationship. But change has always been a terrifying thing for me. Not sure why, as every change I've done I'm my life has always been positive.....except for finding love lol. But I'm at a point in my life where I've stopped focusing on money, and am focusing on me now.
★ΛJ★ Sep 19, 2013

Seeker I met my husband online. Our relationship started as friends and developed into more. I live in the US and he lived in Canada. We talked for 4 months and finally decided to meet in person. We traveled back and forth for 2 years developing that relationship and are now happily married almost 5 years. He moved to the US after all of the red tape from the government... If your heart is telling you it feels right.. Go!! You never know until you try. I wish you lots of luck in your adventure!!
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

adrenalinejunky wrote:
Seeker I met my husband online. Our relationship started as friends and developed into more. I live in the US and he lived in Canada. We talked for 4 months and finally decided to meet in person. We traveled back and forth for 2 years developing that relationship and are now happily married almost 5 years. He moved to the US after all of the red tape from the government... If your heart is telling you it feels right.. Go!! You never know until you try. I wish you lots of luck in your adventure!!

Thanks. Moving to another country would be a HUGE step for me, but when it's love I guess there is no boundaries.
But from what I see the usual is a couple years before making that step. Hmmm lots to ponder on hahaha.
ყoցi Sep 19, 2013

Yes.
18 months.
Every weekend and sometimes during the week. Also went on holiday (first with friends, then just us) 3 times before moving in.

You don't know if you can live with someone until you try it. If you do move in, do it with an open mind and give it your best shot.

Don't make a decision for the wrong reasons either. Be strong in your conviction, either way, and you'll be fine.
ყoցi Sep 19, 2013

And if you are going to all the effort to relocate for the person in question, you may as well move in and have done with it!
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

🐾ყȏɠɪ🐾 wrote:
And if you are going to all the effort to relocate for the person in question, you may as well move in and have done with it!

Hahaha you didn't need to change that. Tho it was incorrect for me. But changing it shows what kind of person you are, which is good. Unless someone told you to lol
Out of the two of us, me moving is the more logical choice. Which I'm totally fine with. But the main reason I want to move is so we can actually begin building a relationship. I would just get an apartment or house, and not move I together until I know we are ready. The distance thing sucks and idont understand how people can do long distance relationships. Specially ones just starting out. But I guess this allows us both to think things through more, and not jump into things and ruin it.
🐑Turf💔Warrior🐑 Sep 19, 2013

Sabasaul wrote:
And remember, just say 🚫 to the 🐏

Hey, I disagree there
🇮🇱Tinea🦶Pedis🇮🇱 Sep 19, 2013

Turf🐑Warrior wrote:
Sabasaul wrote:
And remember, just say 🚫 to the 🐏

Hey, I disagree there

🚫to 🐏 not 🐑.
༄☣βŁιnd☠Łιmιτ☣༄ Sep 19, 2013

My advice to you is just live your life, long distance relationship is so hard, trust is very2x important, my gf is in the other side of the world, its been 3 yrs since we see each other, i wish so many2x times that she's here with me in the US , i miss her alot, i need her here with me so much, and this is the hard part, i can't nothing but to stare at her in skype no matter how i miss her, no matter many tears i cry, we juz can't be together for there is thousands miles parting us, but nxt year finally i can go back to philippines, maybe about a month or so, im so excited, hehe. Well my situation is diff from u, i came here as an immigrant (2010) no parents, no brothers nor cousins, juz me living with my aunty who petition me, i pay for all of my expenses(rent,insurance,gas etc) it's the love keeping us connected, keep urself busy man, you dont like that feeling of missing someone, it makes you sad lol, sorry for the grammar, spelling or whatever. Sorry for not being an english
ყoցi Sep 19, 2013

∞ $ℰℰḲ€ℜ ∞ wrote:
🐾ყȏɠɪ🐾 wrote:
And if you are going to all the effort to relocate for the person in question, you may as well move in and have done with it!

Out of the two of us, me moving is the more logical choice. Which I'm totally fine with. But the main reason I want to move is so we can actually begin building a relationship. I would just get an apartment or house, and not move I together until I know we are ready. The distance thing sucks and idont understand how people can do long distance relationships. Specially ones just starting out. But I guess this allows us both to think things through more, and not jump into things and ruin it.

You already know what you want to do. You don't need us to validate your decisions, we're just a bunch of weirdos, and Saba.
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

༄☣βŁιnd☠Łιmιτ☣༄ wrote:
keep urself busy man, you dont like that feeling of missing someone, it makes you sad lol, sorry for the grammar, spelling or whatever. Sorry for not being an english

Ah, that's rough. Well I hope you see her soon. I have a co worker who was in the same situation. He came to Canada from the Philippines and his family (wife and two daughters) came a year later. That first year was rough on him too.
〓 S E E K E R 〓 Sep 19, 2013

🐾ყȏɠɪ🐾 wrote:
∞ $ℰℰḲ€ℜ ∞ wrote:
🐾ყȏɠɪ🐾 wrote:
And if you are going to all the effort to relocate for the person in question, you may as well move in and have done with it!

You already know what you want to do. You don't need us to validate your decisions, we're just a bunch of weirdos, and Saba.
Ya I know. But I'm not a spontaneous person. I need order, plans and what not. Plus I fear change and the "unknown". I've never been a person with high self esteem or self worth. Though my friends and employers can all disagree based of what I do. Nothing is ever good enough in regards to what I do, I'm my own worst critic.

I just wanted to hear others stories as positive feedback is good encouragement. Plus it just helps all around in my case.
But I do agree, you are all weirdos.....then there's Saba.
P😈Loco(E771) Sep 19, 2013

I would tell you my story but unlike CBB there was no trust. Much patience but there's no trust haha. She cheated on me with countless guys either just doing shit in chat rooms, webcams, trading pics, or meeting up
Either way we're technically together but I just don't care anymore and not even bothering to contact her. Besides there's plenty of local tail being thrown my way. Could easily take one even if I really don't want to lmao.
But you two sound much better than what I got 😄 just make the move when it feels right.