Guys, I really need help on an important decision :(
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✮⇚❹☠❶☠❺⇛✮ wrote:
Yeah .. I hear youHave you explained to your mom what a fucked up situation it is for you, having to choose between two parents? Ultimately, if you have to pick, go with the parent and location you feel will be more comfortable for YOU.
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Stay with your dad. For sure.
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I'd go where the hottest chicks are!
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‡℟ɸɱⱥɲ☧ɭɇɠɩɸɳ‡ wrote:
Are you his dad?Stay with your dad. For sure.
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Yea roman are you my dad? Lololol
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‡ᗩᗪᗪ☠ྈℑᎧƘᗋ‡ wrote:
👀Yea roman are you my dad? Lololol
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You need to be totally selfish in this decision, its your life thats going to change so you need to choose the place that you think is best for you/most beneficial
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Texas is lame. Except Austin.
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ⅉⅇⅆⅈ ཫཬསབϯའཪངƙऽ wrote:
Austin is a great city. Texas has many of them. You must be thinking of Oklahoma.✊Texas is lame. Except Austin.
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Well one advantage is you get to plant turf in a new location....
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Hyena wrote:
That's the least of my concerns right nowWell one advantage is you get to plant turf in a new location....
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‡ᗩᗪᗪ☠ྈℑᎧƘᗋ‡ wrote:
Hey, life's going to throw you curve balls. You're going to have to deal with them. Sure this is a hard decision but you're only 15, and your parents thought you were mature enough to have a say in where you live. They didn't need to do that and could have made the decision without your input. Be grateful for that small mercy. You will have a lot more tough decisions going forward in life, some you will get right others wrong but they are your decisions so choose what you want from life.Hyena wrote:
That's the least of my concerns right nowWell one advantage is you get to plant turf in a new location....
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‡ᗩᗪᗪ☠ྈℑᎧƘᗋ‡ wrote:
Another possibility is to alternate years. You could stay in SD for a year and give your mom a chance to settle in (and miss and appreciate you), then spend the summer and next school year there. After that you'll have experienced both school systems and will know which one will give you the best education. Then you'll be in a better position to judge where you want to end up.ChubsTheWalrus wrote:
I could,, it's just who I live with for majority of timeCould you live with one parent for the summer and some holidays and move back with the other for the rest of the year?
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Good luck. I'm divorced, and in our separation agreement we agreed that the other parent can't move out of area unless they want to give up custody, so that hopefully my kids won't have to go through what you are. It sounds like you've got your head on right, though, so I'm sure you'll be OK.
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Where at in Texas? Might make a big difference.
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I believe that the real question is what you want to be when you grow up. If its a normal everyday job then flip thy coin, if its a not so common job then wherever you think it would be, go there. But if you want to be security or police, go to Texas. Like he said, less gun restrictions. I know it's about family for you but you already said that you love both and can't decide, and the thing is, your parents will go back or let you go back when oh can drive. It's not like your going to never see your other family again. Also your family won't hold a grudge on who you decide, the're your family!
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Also might I add to my post, who do you live with now. I would guess your mom, an you go to your dads every other weekend (I'm talking about school months). And I totally forgot, you have friends in Cali, do you want to go make new ones, can you make them fast?
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I can make friends yes. And it is in San Antonio
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This was literally my exact situation, but I was 18. I pm'd you. Get back to me, I'm able to see your situation very clearly. We can talk on pal later too if you want.
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💀༄ẙṳʗҡʘ༄💀 wrote:
This just got immediately filed under the: "Best advice ever given in a Internet forum". Well said sir. 👍When you can't decide, flip a coin. Not because the coin will choose for you,but because in that split second, you'll know what side you want it to fall on.
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Stay with the one that makes the most money💵
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Hey man Im sorry for what your going through. You have to think about the environment you might be going into. Your neiborhood, friends, heat, education and the parent you trust the most. You may trust them equally like I do with my parents. But I believe in your head, you know which side you are leaning to. Good luck. 👍
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Be thankful that you are being given a choice. Many kids are simply told where they are going. No, it's not an easy choice. Having your parents divorce is never fun.
I'm amazed at the people criticizing his mom without knowing the situation. It's possible her family has to move to Texas for employment. Since he said they aren't wealthy, I doubt she's moving just for the heck of it or to purposefully put her kids in a tough situation.
I disagree with the suggestion that you alternate locations each year. It's tough to keep changing school districts, friends, etc.
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☦ʂaƀĭƞᵗᵡ☦ wrote:
Texas is an awesome state.ⅉⅇⅆⅈ ཫཬསབϯའཪངƙऽ wrote:
Austin is a great city. Texas has many of them. You must be thinking of Oklahoma.✊Texas is lame. Except Austin.
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I'd stay in in your original state with your school friends.
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qweeter1997 wrote:
You want his friends? Don't you have your own??I'd stay in in your original state with your school friends.
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Hyena wrote:
??? I mean he should stay where he is with his friends/hometown. Moving would change a lot.qweeter1997 wrote:
You want his friends? Don't you have your own??I'd stay in in your original state with your school friends.
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I went thru something similar as well. Pennsylvania or Las Vegas, NV. I was a freshman in high school. I stayed 2 yrs in PA, let Pops set up, then moved and finished high school in NV. I knew I'd move out for college after those 4 yrs anyway. It was a good experience, as living with Pops was a challenge and made me much more independent. I learned more from PA schools, but more about life from Vegas.
Remember to look at the positives. You'll experience different people, cultures, environments, maybe educations. You will miss your family, but that's out of your control so try to focus on what you can control. I was depressed for a while when I had to make my decision. To me, this kind of depression was a choice. If possible, choose not to be depressed about it and make it the best you can.
If you believe, pray. Good luck.
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Lot of good advice here. My parents split when I was your age and I was asked which house I wanted to live in. For me the decision came down to structure and environment. At 15 I knew that my mom would have zero control over me because my dad always disciplined my brothers and I. I knew that even though it sucks I needed to be held accountable for my actions when I screwed up. So I chose to live with my Dad and had to watch my mother cry her eyes out when I told her. So my advice is to make the decision based on what will make you happiest. Do what these guys said and make the decision selfishly as if there were no one else involved. Once you figure out what is right for you then deal with how to break it to the parent you won't be living with. It will be hard to say to either one but ultimately you got to do what is best for you.
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qweeter1997 wrote:
Not having much luck with any of your advice Hyena? Sometimes it all just goes WHOOSH!!Hyena wrote:
??? I mean he should stay where he is with his friends/hometown. Moving would change a lot.qweeter1997 wrote:
You want his friends? Don't you have your own??I'd stay in in your original state with your school friends.
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