Depression
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How do you guys beat it (if youve had the issue of having it) ive just felt like shit latley. Its that girl for those that remember. I know i should get help but it easier for me to reach out to people i dont personally know. Thanks.
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How did it go between you and that girl by the way. I would give my sort of advice or opinion but I'm not aware of the situation
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Depression, unfortunately the only person that can help is you. It's a mind set, you have to physical/mentally police your thoughts by keeping negative thoughts out and concentrating on positive things or spinning your situation into a positive light.
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It might be easier, but you get what you pay for. With that said, there are a number of strategies for fighting depression. In no particular order: 1. Exercise. 2. Get enough sleep. 3. Keep yourself occupied with something productive that will give you a sense of accomplishment. (TW probably doesn't count here.) 4. Eat right.
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Do something that you used to enjoy doing.
Start a daily routine of various things that need to be done and stick to it.
Contact your local hospital to see if they have support groups that you can go to. It is much easier to talk to strangers about what you're going thru. It's nice to know that others feel the exact same way you do.
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Writing helps me deal with things. Depression has been a large part of my life for a while now. When I write whatever is on my mind it helps me to off load some of the burden, even though nobody ever sees what I write.
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5. Watch out for negative/absolute thinking, e.g., "things will never get better," "there's nothing I can do," "I'll never meet anyone as good as she is." Those kind of absolute statements are almost certainly false, which you can see if you analyze them properly. Depression makes it very hard to do that, which is why you have to be vigilant about it.
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Go on a good healthy date with a beautiful girl.
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6. If none of those strategies work, you need to talk to someone, preferably a professional. You should also consider antidepressants, although they certainly aren't for everyone.
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I don't recommend anti depressants. Like he said no for everyone. They made me even worse
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My advice comes from experience. I was outta work for 10 months. Jack's advice is spot on.
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You will also feel less depressed the more you feel connected to people. Hang out with your mates and family. Of course, you have to be able to be honest with them about how you feel - putting up a front will just make you feel more isolated.
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This is the part of the TW community I love... The caring people that keeps this game going. I wish you luck mango, and will pray that you will overcome this.
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Ϯɧєℜєɖєєɱeℜ wrote:
ALOT of the new commers don't ever get a chance to see this. Which is a shame. They just whine and expect to get empathy then they quit. Just stay a while and really get to know people and this comes out.This is the part of the TW community I love... The caring people that keeps this game going. I wish you luck mango, and will pray that you will overcome this.
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I once had a girl leave me because I said a gay joke without knowing her brother was gay.
Shit happens all the time bro, don't feel down on yourself. Talk and reach out to everyone you can, it will make you feel better.
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There have been many things I've done to battle depression. Deep meditation works wonders. I've also taken up hobbies like building model cars. My first ones look terrible, but now they turn out quite nicely. I've done nearly 300 models in the past 15 years. It keeps you focused on something other than your depression. Basically anything like that helps.
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Too drunk to reply.- pm me tomorrow.
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“⚡Տɧɑƌøա₭ɪɲɠ⚡ wrote:
Nice hobby👍, yes hobbies are a good way to goThere have been many things I've done to battle depression. Deep meditation works wonders. I've also taken up hobbies like building model cars. My first ones look terrible, but now they turn out quite nicely. I've done nearly 300 models in the past 15 years. It keeps you focused on something other than your depression. Basically anything like that helps.
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Set a schedule and stick to it. Wake up and go to bed at the same time every day (weekends included). See the sun shine! Interact with people and limit your computer time.
As for self hatred, a professional can help, but you have to find the right one. If you lived in Colorado, I would recommend the perfect person. Something made you feel this way, you need to get to the root of that (may be deeper than you think) and work from there.
I wish you luck and hope the TW community helps as well. 😊
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i usually drink alot of whiskey
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photofinish wrote:
Not good advice at all.i usually drink alot of whiskey
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Depression is a horrible thing. Something that can take complete control if you let it and doesn't effect two people in the same way. It requires you to find a way to take control of it.
I've suffered from depression for many years now and haven't found a way to completely overcome it. I have spells where I'm "fine" and everything goes okay, then I have times where I could destroy the world, or if history has anything to prove, destroy myself.
My suggestion would be to seek professional help, but don't let the bastards fuck you about. I arranged a meeting through my GP a few yeas ago to start my counselling as I realised after a few too many trips to the hospital to get stitched up or pumped out, that enough was enough. The first meeting went fine (i have no problem talking about what's going on in my head or how things make me feel) until the end and I had to make an appointment for my next visit. The guy told me I had to wait six weeks to see him again. SIX WEEKS!
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photofinish wrote:
Alcohol is a depressant, so not the best treatment for depression. A fleeting case of the blues, on the other hand....i usually drink alot of whiskey
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I fought this out with my GP and got things moved around and got to see him two weeks earlier, but still to me that wasn't good enough. I wanted someone there every week or so. Damn it, I was going crazy and needed the help. They'd only tell someone what I'd said during our "chats" if they thought I was a danger to myself or other people, but how would they know?!
After all that I just sacked it all off. No more meetings, no more meds, nothing. Lasted about a year before it hit me really hard again. One thing lead to another and I messed up. Messed up really good. Now I struggle to get meds that normal people could get before they even finish asking for and on the odd occasion that I got arrested (not for 8 years now) I had the pleasure of being stripped searched to ensure I didn't have any blades hidden about my person. Not a pleasant experience I assure you.
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I guess I'm trying to say, get some help. Get it and stick with it and don't do anything stupid. I know, as well as doctors should, that we all need a little help and we all deserve it. To through the proper channels and stuck it out. Don't find your "own way" that was as destructive as mine.
I'm always here to talk if you need someone to vent to.
Hope you're okay.
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I'm assuming you're male as well, and I have no idea where you're from, but there's lots of people out there willing to help.
Www.thecalmzone.net - these guys are fantastic in the work they do and have a UK based phone support if you need it.
Also, check out the Samaritans. The have both phone and text services to help you. I've used them before when I had nowhere else to turn and really needed to talk.
Both are UK based, so sorry if they're no good, but I'm sure wherever you are there'll be something similar available.
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There are some great bits of advice here, but mine would be to seek professional help. There is no shame in it and it works. Believe me, it takes a lot to initially get help, but once you do, you will feel better.
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If you do get professional help, make sure to find someone that you can work well with. Even though they've heard it all, it's still hard to tell someone your deepest fears, insecurities and painful secrets. If you don't click with the first person you meet with, try someone else.
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It's just a matter of being the master of your own reality( may sound dumb) but legit I've fought depression my entire life, things have been looking up for me for what seems like the first time in a long time and its all about how you look at things. Things aren't going to bug you unless you let them. Don't give your power away so you slip into depression. I've had many bad dealings with the opposite sex and its a hard thing to recover from. But lately I've found that good things don't happen when you want them to, they happen when they need to so you can appreciate the moment fully. Things get tough but you cant let yourself be beaten by yourself. Your stronger than that. We all are. Everything you have gone through good and bad in this life has made you a stronger person, there has been nothing to this point that you can't deal with. Use that. If you've come this far why sit and slink about the place your in now? Keep pushing and soon it gets easier.
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Rebel - while I agree you need to be positive, that isn't a cure for depression. Depression is a chemical imbalance that needs to be corrected. While mild cases can be helped with positive thoughts, exercise, light and socialization more severe cases can require medication and talk therapy.
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When it comes to getting over a girl, the greatest thing I can reccomend is hitting the gym. Working out releases chemicals that make you feel good and accomplished. It increases your confidence as you see your body changing and becoming more fit. It increases your "market value" in the sense that you become more attractive to girls. It gives you something to put your mind on if you're there for an hour a day. It gets rid of the time that you're just killing around, because that time is the easiest time for depressing thoughts to set in. Working out helped me the most whenever I went through similar things.. And I can't stress it's importance enough. Good luck bro, you'll make it through!
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