Turfa needs YOUR help - getting engaged - traditions??

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♠️ADD TURFA♠️ Dec 3, 2012

I have been unofficially engaged for some time.

HOWEVER - in six days my girlfriend/fiancé turns eighteen, and I have a little ceremony planned to propose in front of the family and friends.

I can't go into deep detail this moment, but I will describe my plans when I have more time to sit down and type it out.

My question for you is this:

Are there any traditional ways to propose?

By this, I mean,

•Lean on the left knee, or right knee?
•Rose in the mouth - stem to the left, or right?
•Traditional colours - black and white dress clothes?
•etc. etc.

...I know my questions may sound weird, but I want to go with any old (very old) traditional methods. It's important to me. It just is 😝

Thanks in advance!
ㄕλπㄢλपㅁπ Dec 3, 2012

I have no idea, but ill give you this Bump! 👊👊👊

Good luck!
IG-100 Dec 3, 2012

Why dont you just have 2 roses?
IG-100 Dec 3, 2012

If it is by the beach and warm, try red shirt and white jacket and pants
Add: OLSEN Dec 3, 2012

I don't know what tradition is tbh. I just sat on a wharf next to my mrs and asked her haha
NaiBlanc Dec 3, 2012

I don't know what to say apart from congrats.

I proposed to my missus on bended left knee in our local curry restaurant.......
Thumbs Riley Dec 3, 2012

Make your own tradition. (I proposed during a meal at a nice restaurant as well.)
mojopilot Dec 3, 2012

Of the details you are stressing none of them are traditional that I know of. But a rose in your mouth? That seems like something straight out of a daytime soap opera.

I don't even remember most of my engagement. I was at arches natl. park in Utah, walked under an arch, did the one knee bit, said some sappy romantic stuff that I don't even remember saying, and neither does she. I was a nervous wreck and knew she was going to say yes. The less stuff you can screw up in the moment, the better.

Now what the hell are you thinking marrying a girl that young?
♠️ADD TURFA♠️ Dec 3, 2012

Her birthday will be at a local town hall. It has a large floor and decent sized stage at one end.

I plan to publicly propose, as we have already discussed it and agreed to get married, so it's not going to be an awkward turn-down situation.

...cont...
♠️ADD TURFA♠️ Dec 3, 2012

-The idea is that her step father will carry the ring for the evening.
-My best friend will have my red rose in his button hole.
-My father will be ready to pass a small, handmade timber table/pedistle onto the stage.
-My sister will be ready to pass me a small vase &flowers
-My younger brother will be ready to come on stage to help me out.

We will have the cake-cutting on the stage. Whilst she makes the first cut (her back to the wings, where I will be), I will walk out, lean down and collect the rose and ring from my aforementioned partners in crime, and my father will lift the pedistle onto the stage, whilst my sister passes the vase to my brother, which he will place on the pedistle. It's just a prop, and somewhere for me to put the box after removing the ring.

I will then kneel behind her, rose in mouth, and propose when she turns (removing the rose to speak, obviously).

Simple. Hopefully it goes off without a hitch!
♠️ADD TURFA♠️ Dec 3, 2012

mojopilot wrote:
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Utah, walked under an arch, did the one knee bit, said some sappy romantic stuff that I don't even remember saying, and neither does she. I was a nervous wreck and knew she was going to say yes. The less stuff you can screw up in the moment, the better.

Now what the hell are you thinking marrying a girl that young?

I'm turning 20 this month. She is turning 18.
Does age matter? This bubble is made of iron, mate. Good luck bursting it.

To me, a proposal is second only to the wedding itself.

This is my birthday present to her. I want to make it special.

The rose ... well, it's a nice prop, don't you think?

I like you mojo. Don't make me dislike you 😡

It's a special thing to me ... even if it wasn't to you.

P.S. I don't scare easily. Honestly, stage fright is not going to be my biggest issue.
🔰ℬཞüęℵǿཞ🔰 Dec 3, 2012

Glad I deleted my earlier comment hahaha you just answered all my questions.

As far as clothing, dress for the occasion, but don't over dress, that makes her look bad in her mind alright? Good
:) sounds like you got it all figured though hahaha
🔰ℬཞüęℵǿཞ🔰 Dec 3, 2012

As far as traditions go, you got the basics covered from what I read. The rose, the knee, the fathers permission... 👍
mojopilot Dec 3, 2012

Just giving you a hard time, nothing personal. Age doesn't matter, maturity does. I don't know her so I can't say anything about that.

I like the plan, and its great that you have the support of everyone. Sounds like a lot of potential things to go wrong, but the devil is always in the details.

Should be a hell of a party and a day to remember!
mojopilot Dec 3, 2012

And I get that you don't have to worry about a no. Neither did I; my wife picked out her own ring (tradition, right...) but it was nerve racking wanting everything to be perfect. I wanted the memory to be perfect more than anything. It's a lot to go through. Just stick to the plan!
₩ᎥℕᎧ Dec 3, 2012

mojopilot wrote:
Of the details you are stressing none of them are traditional that I know of. But a rose in your mouth? That seems like something straight out of a daytime soap opera.

I don't even remember most of my engagement. I was at arches natl. park in Utah, walked under an arch, did the one knee bit, said some sappy romantic stuff that I don't even remember saying, and neither does she. I was a nervous wreck and knew she was going to say yes. The less stuff you can screw up in the moment, the better.

Now what the hell are you thinking marrying a girl that young?

Congrats! It's awesome you want to make the night memorable, do whatever you want to do. She will appreciate the thought always.
MrsGTR36 Dec 3, 2012

Sounds to me like you have everything perfectly together. Congratulations on your engagement. I'm sure you'll have a happy lifetime together. Don't stress the small stuff. Good luck!
⌖🔥Foogazy🔥⌖ Dec 3, 2012

You get on both knees at the same time. U must have Vaseline on hand cuz in the end.... Ur gonna get screwed
;-)
hotrodtech Dec 3, 2012

Dude age has nothing to do with it do what your gut tells you 👍😛
💀De͜sтяоγe͜я💀 Dec 3, 2012

on your left knee with the right knee up.
(like you would kneel to be knighted)
you hold the ringbox in the left hand so that your right hand can open it.
unless you are left handed. in which case i would think whatever hand you are comfortable holding it with.
Boner Jams '03 Dec 3, 2012

I would suggest another birthday gift as well. Women do not appreciate the finer points of consolidation! 😂
♠️ADD TURFA♠️ Dec 3, 2012

💀De͜sтяоγe͜я💀 wrote:
on your left knee with the right knee up.
(like you would kneel to be knighted)
you hold the ringbox in the left hand so that your right hand can open it.
unless you are left handed. in which case i would think whatever hand you are comfortable holding it with.

I found that on google, too, dude. Cheers.
... Now. I've worked everything out, except my clothes. It's a semi-formal birthday, so I might just wear my suit. Yeah ... I think I'll do that.

Thanks for all the feedback, ladies and gentlemen! Much appreciated 👍✌
☣ 🎸ӈɪƖƖßıƖƖγ🎸☣ Dec 3, 2012

That stuff is too cliche. Come up with something original that she'll remember.
BellaItaliana Dec 3, 2012

mojopilot wrote:
...a rose in your mouth? That seems like something straight out of a daytime soap opera...

My thoughts exactly. 😂
ꅔꉻꐪ꒩ᵀᴸ Dec 3, 2012

Godspeed, Turfa.

(Rose is a tad interesting, mad respect if this all goes off without any problems 👍)
mojopilot Dec 3, 2012

Boner Jams '03 wrote:
I would suggest another birthday gift as well. Women do not appreciate the finer points of consolidation! 😂

That is advice you can take to the bank!!!
♠️ADD TURFA♠️ Dec 4, 2012

☣ 🎸ӈɪƖƖßıƖƖγ🎸☣ wrote:
That stuff is too cliche. Come up with something original that she'll remember.

Excuse me ... my plan is completely original in design. The only things that aren't original are the rose and kneeling. Oh, and the ring. But it's one I chose so that's kinda original 😏
☣ 🎸ӈɪƖƖßıƖƖγ🎸☣ Dec 4, 2012

♠Ƭϋʀғä♠ wrote:
☣ 🎸ӈɪƖƖßıƖƖγ🎸☣ wrote:
That stuff is too cliche. Come up with something original that she'll remember.

Excuse me ... my plan is completely original in design. The only things that aren't original are the rose and kneeling. Oh, and the ring. But it's one I chose so that's kinda original 😏
Give her a certificate to go to a tattoo parlor. That way y'all can get rings tattooed on your fingers.