Running away
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I have to runaway from my parents I can't stand to live with then anymore should I go to the police and ask for a lawyer or go to an orphan house of some sort. It's just they don't under stand me and they think I'm capable of a lot more than I am
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I really hope you're just shitting around, considering they most likely bought you the iDevice you're using to play TW
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2 questions how old are you? And what makes you think these things. And unless thay abuse you in any way, I don't think a lawyer can do anything.
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YOU wrote:
And how do they not understand you? Not only could you potentially ruin your life, but ruin the lives of your parents...not just ruin your relationship with them. It won't look good on them with leaf documents saying that their child ran away from home and live in foster care...now I could be wrong, they could be eating you go all I know...I don't know, in which case go to the police.I really hope you're just shitting around, considering they most likely bought you the iDevice you're using to play TW
How old are you if I may ask?
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Move in with scarface,heard he needs a baby sitter.
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14 they screen and yell at me for getting B's in class beat me if there's a single speck of dirt on the floor. My dad tells my girlfriend I can't be with her cause she had another boyfriend before. There ruining my life.( I saved up for my iPod by mowing lawns that took me about a year to do but then they won't even let me charge it because it will raise the electity bill up I have to charge it at school.) then they screen at me because my friends aren't church people so they go up to them and say I can't be friends with them anymore.
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Well take it how you want to but they are mad about your grades because they care about you and want you to do better, also they probably wanted you to save the money you used to buy the device for college(that's if you haven't told them that you aren't going or not) and do your friends do anything that they are supposed to do like drugs and what not? You have to think like the adult and see both sides of the spectrum to understand why they do these things. Now the charging part I really don't know but if they say that the electricity bill will go up then maybe it's better that you do charge it at school. But this is just a little words of wisdom from my perspective.
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Ok...well my parents bitche at me all the time if I got less than an A on any test...got bitched at for having more than 2 B's for the semester, got grounded for a whole summer getting a C in a class second semester, they tried to dictate what fiends I can and can't have (knowing full well that some drink, some smoke, and some addicted to sex) and preferred me to be with church kids instead (had a couple, but not many at all - like 2 or 3)...but guess what, I still graduated HS with a 3.7 GPA, better than my dad did in HS!! My mom disnt even graduate HS, she was a drop out!! My dad and Stepmom (a goody-goody in HS, 4.0 GPA, sports, etc) set me up for success and to uphold responsibilities! Now I'm headed off to AF basic training, which will be 100 times worse than your parents and mine combined!
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But running away isn't going to solve your problems and trust me you do not want to go to a home other than your bi-parents home. I have kids running away from those places only to be found and put back again and severely punished for running away. And you don't get out until your legal age of maturity in that state(mostly 18-19 but there are some that go to 21). It also won't feed you clothe you or pay for your stuff.
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Well Cinderella you can't go to the ball, but because your parents 'screen' at you I would suggest you go to school.
I can't help but feel a little sceptical ..... Maybe just try to grow up a bit?
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You gotta reach down and make sure you still have some dingle-berries (if a female, more like lack of), and get over it. I guarantee life without your parents is going to be 10x worse than with them.
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You aren't as old, or as grown up, as you think you are. sound like you are living through the joys of being a teenager. It happened to all of us. Sorry.
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Same with the B grades, but probably because im Asian American(My parents are Racist, very funny)
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I can kinda relate. If I get a B in a class I'll get in a lot of trouble with my parents. I'm 15, taking two AP classes, and I've never not gotten an A in any class. I can relate to you're pressure there. The other stuff seems pretty extreme though. I guess I would have to be in your shoes to understand.
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YOU wrote:
I don't know if running away will solve your problems though.I can kinda relate. If I get a B in a class I'll get in a lot of trouble with my parents. I'm 15, taking two AP classes, and I've never not gotten an A in any class. I can relate to you're pressure there. The other stuff seems pretty extreme though. I guess I would have to be in your shoes to understand.
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What's up with your extended family? Dou you have aunts, uncles, cousins who can run interference for you? Some old fashioned family drama could give them a reality check. MUCH better and cleaner than getting the state involved. If you do have to dip. Wait until the weekend, go to your nearest realative if possible and ONLY stay the day. It sucks but there really is no better option than your parents raising you.
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My mom is very tough on me.
She doesn't slap me much, she mostly uses (I called it verbal abuse) she freaks out over Bs.
She has very high expectations.
And she makes me work... Hard.
I'm 15 turning 16 in a few months.
You may not see it yet, but I'm starting to see it. But having tough parents will really prepair you in life.
"what doesnt kill you makes you stronger" -
₳Ɗⅅ ℋ∆₩₭ⓩ wrote:
Your aggression is showing. It's good your parents have high standards for you. If they didn't, they wouldn't love you.I have to runaway from my parents I can't stand to live with then anymore should I go to the police and ask for a lawyer or go to an orphan house of some sort. It's just they don't under stand me and they think I'm capable of a lot more than I am
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My old neighbor ran away 3 years ago.
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Hate saying this but I know exactly what running away does, and let me tell you it dosent do shit. No place to run to, no place to hide, pretty soon you've got no money, no food, no place to shower so you at least look respectable so you can earn a bit of cash, no clean clothes. A week before your caught, or go home willingly.
If you do have any of that stuff after a week it's either because a sweet old lady took pity on you or because your in with a crowd that's going to use you, and its likely to end with you dead in a ditch.I lost many friends over these few years who decided that "their parents don't understand". Almost lost my own brother, too.
You want to run away cause you think it's the easy way out.
Any coward can lit out, but cowards get eaten alive in this world. -
💀༄्ཧ़ཀंེབ།༨ཛყ༄💀 wrote:
😂😂😂😂😂Move in with scarface,heard he needs a baby sitter.
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Very well put breunor. I had the same problem with a younger friend who ran and took a bus to Birmingham. 200$ no cell job and only a backpack on his back with a spare change of clothes. He lasted about a week and 3 days before he called me and told me that he needed help as some of the other "runners" wanted his stuff and were willing to do what ever it takes to get it. I had to rush over there and pick him up and drop him off back home. You can run, and hide for a little while. But you won't survive that's for sure.
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Please sit down with the school nurse or school counselor ASAP and ask them for some referrals to a counselor that can talk to you. Another option is any trusted adult; an adult relative, adult cousin, caring teacher, coach or pastor of your local church.
My concern is that you get protection from being beaten.
Don't run away. Don't do anything hasty like run. You need a support system to get you some help to stop the beatings.
Please talk to someone tomorrow then let us know how it went.
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saelo wrote:
Please sit down with the school nurse or school counselor ASAP and ask them for some referrals to a counselor that can talk to you. Another option is any trusted adult; an adult relative, adult cousin, caring teacher, coach or pastor of your local church.
My concern is that you get protection from being beaten.
Don't run away. Don't do anything hasty like run. You need a support system to get you some help to stop the beatings.
Please talk to someone tomorrow then let us know how it went.
This is good advice. Not all parents do the right thing, and not all parenting is healthy. Plus, when it comes to raising kids, not all that's tough makes a kid stronger. (Some kids get broken.) But you need someone who's mature enough to figure out whether you need help or not. Seek a trusted adult who can help.
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For one, I woulda killed for a time out when I was a kid, that being said, I thank my parents for bringing me up with a belt AND restrictions, I believe that a child should be punished for disobeying their parents and I know that your parents love you. Frankly, you shouldn't be getting this much attention for wanting to run away, I mean, that's the kind of stuff I thought about when I was 5 or 6--not when I was a teenager. As a teenager, I was useful to my family in their business and daily life and I loved them. They treated me like a man when I was 14 vecause I acted like one. They taught me to be respectful and to honor those who were above me whether it be them or others. That's how kids are raised in Texas. I don't know where you live but you honestly need to shut up and obey them if you want my opinion.
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Like many others here already said: running away is going to make it worse in the end.
You say youre 14, now be honest and take a step back if you can, your at the age where your body is going trough massive changes, your hormones are starting to go crazy...
You might not notice it youreself, but your attitude towards your parents is changing aswell, going towards some sort rebellion mode. Take the advice of the people that posted above, there are some that know what they are talking about.And finally, if this would apply to you, stop acting like a mister know it all that can take on the world. Be respectfull to your parents, as they go to work every day, not for fun, but to be able to raise you. Them cursing at you for having minor grades only shows how much they want you to have a better job than they have at the moment...
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I really wanted to say something about this thread last night, but I couldn't quite figure out what to say. While I feel that your parents sound like they're handling some parental areas incorrectly, I wasn't the person to give you advice here. I thought about this thread a few times at work today and was curious to see what others said.
After reading everyone's responses, I was very impressed with what Sir Talk a Lot, Saelo and Breuner said. Just wanted to tell you that you should read those 3 responses carefully and give them consideration. Especially Saelo's advice on finding a counselor or a church to talk to. There are people who can help.
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And I really hope you turn out okay. ✌🐏
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₳Ɗⅅ ℋ∆₩₭ⓩ wrote:
Yo man that ain't right I am 14 too but my parents do not do that, also if u want to leave then just tell the police everything that u told us and that's it I suppose14 they screen and yell at me for getting B's in class beat me if there's a single speck of dirt on the floor. My dad tells my girlfriend I can't be with her cause she had another boyfriend before. There ruining my life.( I saved up for my iPod by mowing lawns that took me about a year to do but then they won't even let me charge it because it will raise the electity bill up I have to charge it at school.) then they screen at me because my friends aren't church people so they go up to them and say I can't be friends with them anymore.
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Iceberg_Slim wrote:
I'd suggest this. Talk to a grandma/grandpa or aunt/uncle and see if you can live with them for a bit. That might work.What's up with your extended family? Dou you have aunts, uncles, cousins who can run interference for you? Some old fashioned family drama could give them a reality check. MUCH better and cleaner than getting the state involved. If you do have to dip. Wait until the weekend, go to your nearest realative if possible and ONLY stay the day. It sucks but there really is no better option than your parents raising you.
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How are you now Hawk?
Hope you're OK.
Plz keep us posted...
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