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The hardest conversation of my life

• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 16, 2012

  Well, my dad knows...

  Took it well actually (I think).

  He accepts it's what I want, but doesn't fully understand I have to do this (to whatever end)

  He worries I'll be discriminated against (duh!), and thinks I'd look stupid in a dress (well everyone's a critic)

  We agreed on androgynous clothing (jeans, trousers) and he doesn't want my sisters to know (fair enough)

  But, he may not be entirely happy, at least he knows when he finds my knickers and bras in the wash 😝

  I'll wait now for the shock to wear off, I'll probably get a backlash in a few days. Still the secret's out and it will be (somewhat) easier from here on.
• Jєсɦт Jul 16, 2012

  Well at least you told him. Good luck lol. I'd think It be best to let the shock settle before he sees you in a dress lol
• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 16, 2012

  ✗Oςϵιοτ✗ wrote:

  Well at least you told him. Good luck lol. I'd think It be best to let the shock settle before he sees you in a dress lol
  

  I think it'd put him in an early grave.

  I said if he wanted to speak to me about it once the shock has worn off he is welcome to do so. I think it'll be me doing the talking first though.
• Σχϲιѕιøη Jul 16, 2012

  Glad to hear he took it well! I hope you continue to enjoy your 'new' life, Bronwyn 😘
• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 16, 2012

  OneThumbBastard wrote:

  To be honest, I really could care less how anyone feels about your choice except you, Swag. If you are cool with it and believe you have found a path to your own happiness, then so am I.👍
  

  He's the only person in the world who could have stopped me.

  I was terrified he'd throw me out of the house of something stupid. It seems (at present) that isn't going to happen.
• Hyena Jul 16, 2012

  Much respect Swags for facing your fears. Often in our heads we can make something bigger than it is. I'm glad your dad was able to accept it. How old are your sisters that they are not to know?
• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 16, 2012

  ☠✠Add CTF✠☠ wrote:

  Wait, swag got a sex change?
  

  Not yet...

  I've accepted I'm transgender, I'll bump my other post.
• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 16, 2012

  Youngest sister is 31, then 40 and 44. The oldest will be a problem...

  In any case as part of my ground rules with dad, I won't be telling them until it gets more serious.
• ☠ðůﾅ⌖ʟḁẘ☠ Jul 16, 2012

  💗Swagger💗 wrote:

  Well, my dad knows...

  Took it well actually (I think).

  He accepts it's what I want, but doesn't fully understand I have to do this (to whatever end)

  He worries I'll be discriminated against (duh!), and thinks I'd look stupid in a dress (well everyone's a critic)

  We agreed on androgynous clothing (jeans, trousers) and he doesn't want my sisters to know (fair enough)

  But, he may not be entirely happy, at least he knows when he finds my knickers and bras in the wash 😝

  I'll wait now for the shock to wear off, I'll probably get a backlash in a few days. Still the secret's out and it will be (somewhat) easier from here on.
  

  Maybe he already kinda knew....You just verified it.Discrimination wise, well the world is changing.No one chooses to be born a certain way,it is what it is.Good Luck
• Ꭱ3V Jul 16, 2012

  Good for you swag. I know that must have been a scary convo to have. Kudos on being brave enough to do it. Glad to hear your dad didn't freak out on you. Now to put one foot in front of the other. Things'll sort themselves out. 👍
• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 16, 2012

  Counselling on Friday, BTW. Dontcha just love working for the NHS!
• 〓MΛVΞЯICK〓 Jul 16, 2012

  💗Swagger💗 wrote:

  Youngest sister is 31, then 40 and 44. The oldest will be a problem...

  In any case as part of my ground rules with dad, I won't be telling them until it gets more serious.
  

  You can wait to tell your sisters but I think that women are very understanding. Don't know your sisters but I have a good feeling about it.
• 🔰ℬཞüęℵǿཞ🔰 Jul 16, 2012

  💗Swagger💗 wrote:

  Counselling on Friday, BTW. Dontcha just love working for the NHS!
  

  Good luk with that hahaha
  Counselors are sneaky :P

  If you need proof of support, just send them to TW, we'll beat them up for ya ;)
• Nalfaria Jul 16, 2012

  Well done swaggs!
• Kaͣrͩaͩs Jul 16, 2012

  Didn't see this post before I posted in the other.

  Still stands, if you want to talk...

  Still really happy and proud of you. 😄
• 👿💋A͜ʟωɑץʂ ₲💋👿 Jul 17, 2012

  Ꮹཞ།ཀཀ wrote:

  Good for you swag. I know that must have been a scary convo to have. Kudos on being brave enough to do it. Glad to hear your dad didn't freak out on you. Now to put one foot in front of the other. Things'll sort themselves out. 👍
  

  👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
  Good luck and stay strong!!!
• ᏟᏞᏫNᎬ Jul 17, 2012

  Just curious what does the counselling entail?
• Add code 43 Jul 17, 2012

  Good Luck!
• 〓CAPTAIN SATAN〓 Jul 17, 2012

  I walk with a swagger
  I walk with a swagger
  I never never stagger
  I walk with a swagger

  Good luck swagger 💅💇🎉👍
• 🎸Ꭲ✯ℌ༏ננβ༏ננƴ🎸 Jul 17, 2012

  Captain Satan wrote:

  I walk with a swagger
  I walk with a swagger
  I never never stagger
  I walk with a swagger

  Good luck swagger 💅💇🎉👍
  

  😢Beautiful, just plain beautiful...
  Brought a tear to my eye
• 👻⋆℟ꇎῃઙϮƎя⋆👻 Jul 17, 2012

  Can imagine this was the biggest hurdle on the road. Good that you took it and the outcome of the conversation is far from negative!
  You go girl! 💃
• 〓SHЯIИUT〓 Jul 17, 2012

  Are you scared about chopping "It" off? or is it like a burden to you? Whatever the case, good on ya for being who you want to be, and I'm sure you put a lot of thought into the decision.
• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 17, 2012

  Counselling involves talking about it, but also giving me advice. Groups to seek out, things to do.

  I was there a few years ago when I had a breakdown, and it helped then.

  Thanks Capt' Satan 😃

  And as for losing "it", when wearing tight women's jeans you have to tuck it in tight knickers to hide it, so getting rid doesn't bother me.

  I'd just prefer to be the real me 😃

  Finally, the morning after the night before...

  Dad still seems OK, we chatted at breakfast as normal. I'll probably bring the subject up again if he doesn't in a few days, just to make sure. But, all in all, I'm happy😊
• sadsam Jul 17, 2012

  💗Swagger💗 wrote:

  . But, all in all, I'm happy😊
  

  👆the most important part of all of this
• 🆕Ꮹrūmpÿ🔱Wøøkįee Jul 17, 2012

  Firstly, Congratulations. You are open to yourself and now your father. It will get easier every time you talk about it face to face with someone.

  I don't understand the whole transgender thing but when I don't understand something I seek out a greater understanding and don't take the road of fear or hate. I loved the movie Transamerica and have watch some reality TV shows about the trans female doctor from Washington that does the final surgeries in Colorado. It seems to be a very supportive group. Remember to lean on them when you have a question or need support.

  Congratulations again and good luck as you decide what your future holds.
• ⭕❌⭕❗ Jul 17, 2012

  Shoot me down as much as you want but is this really the place for this conversation?

  The topic is a bit specialised ain't it, surely there are dedicated websites for this, ones where kids wouldn't be using it.

  Fair play for fronting it swagger I take my hat off to ya and wish you all the best in your new future, but seriously does it need to be shared with us. If you want to tell everyone and look for support why not go on the Jeremy Kyle show. I've heard you get for it too, so you could get some new clothes or summit
• 💙ⒶⒹⒹ🅢🅦🅐🅖🅖🅔🅡💙 Jul 17, 2012

  GUNS & TATS wrote:

  Shoot me down as much as you want but is this really the place for this conversation?

  The topic is a bit specialised ain't it, surely there are dedicated websites for this, ones where kids wouldn't be using it.

  Fair play for fronting it swagger I take my hat off to ya and wish you all the best in your new future, but seriously does it need to be shared with us. If you want to tell everyone and look for support why not go on the Jeremy Kyle show. I've heard you get for it too, so you could get some new clothes or summit
  

  If it was any other forum, I wouldn't dream of discussing it.

  Perhaps that says more about the TW community than you realise.
• Midgard Jul 17, 2012

  All power to you mate :-)
  Now you cn start the rest of your life
• NaiBlanc Jul 17, 2012

  Good for you swagg, you go girl! It must have been hard for you to talk with your dad!
  I have a friend who lives and works in Blackpool who went through the same transgender situation but when when he told his dad, his da freaked and threw him out (ended up living with friends!). But now after counselling, the surgery and living as a woman for 16/17 years she's proudly walking tall (in very sharp 5 inch stilletto's lol!!)
• NaiBlanc Jul 17, 2012

  I also have a 14 year old nephew who's going through the same as you......in fact she's havin the hormone treatment now and the surgery is next year. I think that might be a little bit early, but I'm there for her in which ever capacity to help and to listen! So if you're wanting to talk about it, please don't bottle it up inside, just give me a shout and I'll be there to listen!!!!
• ☠✠Add CTF✠☠ Jul 17, 2012

  Wait so you want to be a girl, well I'll support you!

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