Divorce
Forums › General Discussion › Divorce-
This is mostly an update for those who saw my thread on my parents heated arguments. First of all I really appreciated the advice. But just now I heard my dad talking on the phone with my half-sister (or his daughter). About getting a divorce with my mom. He said that he and my mom haven't got along in a while. And that their arguements are tearing up the family. He said a divorce will end the arguements, and eventually with time everyone will be happy.
He also mention about me taking to him about the arguments, he said he never knew how much it affected me.
I feel like shit now. Is he saying this because what I told him?
I don't really need advice what to do their isn't much I can do. I just don't know what's the best for me. -
That stinks man… sorry to hear that. I can't really help, but if you need anyone to talk or vent to feel free to use me.
-
Im 18 my parents divorced when i was 1 or 2 and i know from experience its not an easy thing to deal with i still have instances where im
Forced to choose between them to make one happy however its made me a stronger person because of it -
Also if u need someone to talk to feel free to pm me
-
You can't blame yourself. They are ultimately responsible for their actions.
-
We never have control over the trials and tribulations that happen. But we do have control over our response to them. When my parents divirced my brother started doing drugs but, in the other hand, I made the choice to pick a wonderful woman to be my partner and vowed never to get a divorce. Life sucks but don't let it direct your life.
-
Sammy Guns🔫🌊🗻 wrote:
My dad said to my sister it will be the best for everyone...eventually. I'm thinking if this is really true.You can't blame yourself. They are ultimately responsible for their actions.
-
Everything WILL get better. Stay strong and make sure to talk to your dad when you feel distraught or confused. It will be a difficult time for all of you and your dad will be your constant in all of this. Make sure he knows how you feel through all of this!
-
Take comfort in the fact your father talked to your sister, about what you said. It means he really is trying to do best for everybody. Couples have divorced, and remarried before. Staying in a hopeless marriage for the children is usually worse(witnessing arguments), than separating. Your parents will soon transform into who they really want to be, and their happiness will be reflected in your attitude. Keep your head up, and don't change into who you don't want to be.
-
My parents divorced 2 years ago. It is hard, but you will get through it. Good luck.
-
I just went through a divorce somewhat recently...it sucks...but in the end it may be better for everyone as he said.
-
The way to avoid pain (If you wish to do so) is to divide yourself from your family. This is rather dangerous, but if done correctly, will solve alot of pain. You are now your own man. Your family are now just "other humans". This may seem like an idiotic suggestion and it will not work for all, but when my parents used to fight, I would "divide" myself from them. It helped remind me I am my own person and that parents should not have to determine my overall mood. Just remember to always respect them though. Parents, or any adult. 👍
-
Yeah,
Feel ur pain dude. When i was 9 my parents divorced and it has never been the same. -
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!! If u think it is it'll tear/tare(not sure the spelling) u up inside and when u get older ull realize it. I don't know how old u are but know time heals all wounds. I was 12 when my parents seperated and for the first 7 years it fuckin sucked. But now that I'm older I know much more then I did back then and hate myself for thinking that it was my fault. Ull be jus fine man. From the words of red green. "keep your stick on the ice, we're all in this together" (ya I'm Canadian 😜)
-
REMEMBER ITS NEVER THE KIDS FAULT. (in this case you)
Your parents are obviously in some difficult times right now but you need to realize that no matter what they say, you are 100% innocent In this matter. It's their fault for not making the marriage work, not yours. (may sound harsh but it is the truth)
-
Sometimes people just grow apart and realize there are more differences in the relationship than there are common bonds. Time can heal a lot of things but differences in opinions will most likely remain the same. Divorce can be heartbreaking for the children involved because it affects the family unit as a whole. Everyone's life will change and certain adjustments are inevitable. Love the bond you share with each parent and remember there is no one person I blame. Especially yourself. It speaks volumes that your dad is open enough to realize the negative effect that the arguing is having on you. Keep that line of communication open. Hang in there.
-
Your parents need: his needs her needs book, them two go through it together... Or the love dare book, they go through it together...or if you Pray together they'll no doubt stay together.
-
This is not your fault at all, and has nothing to do with your talking to your dad. If this is his second marriage falling apart it sounds like he has a committment problem, or lacks the skills to make a relationship work. Learn from your parents' mistakes so that you don't repeat them.
-
I'm in the same situation as you... I would bet all my money and all I own I'm in worse though, it's pretty tuff.
😢
You can pm me if ya want. I got first hand experience. -
Babyyy wrote:
👍Sometimes people just grow apart and realize there are more differences in the relationship than there are common bonds. Time can heal a lot of things but differences in opinions will most likely remain the same. Divorce can be heartbreaking for the children involved because it affects the family unit as a whole. Everyone's life will change and certain adjustments are inevitable. Love the bond you share with each parent and remember there is no one person I blame. Especially yourself. It speaks volumes that your dad is open enough to realize the negative effect that the arguing is having on you. Keep that line of communication open. Hang in there.
![[][]](https://turfwarsapp.com/img/app/ajax-forbutton.gif)
Purchase Respect Points NEW! · Support · Turf Map · Terms · Privacy
©2021 MeanFreePath LLC