Being a dad
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This was sent to me from a banned forum contributed who is looking for collective advise.
As it contains no trollish content, I agreed to post it:Hey guys I would tell you this myself but I've been banned from the forums.... My gal Sam just called me crying, yelling about her period and what not and that she is sure she's pregnant... Right now she is driving to the pharmacy to pick up those home pregnancy tests. And I'm home searching the Internet for anything to do about raising a child. The problem is
1. I'm 17
2. I'm broke and jobless
3. I live in a foster home so I need to get dyfs to approve me moving into a apartment to be with my girl and maby in 9 months Josh jr.
4. Her mom will kill me when she finds out I knocked her daughter up... -
'ive often joked around about having my girl get a abortion if she gets pregnant, but now it may of happened and the whole ordeal seems completely inhumane to me. I'm not going to kill my son/daughter because it would be hard to raise him/her.I plan on being the best parent I can be... I will get a hundred jobs and work myself to the bone if it meant my seed will live a privileged life I never had.I'm going to raise him to be a healthy active child and bring him/her to the park to socialize and grow social skills. I have no ties to my family and havn't seen any of them in almost twelve years(exept my bro who has a hard enough time putting food on the table for him and his gal) so I can expect absolutely no help with babysitting/financial problems
WHAT DO I DO??!? I'm scared shitless. Also any tips any raising a baby/ getting a apartment/ dealing with your prego gal will be much appreciated.For more info pm me I also will be reading the comments posted here and askin you questions thx
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Send PM's to your plague
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Ask grimm, he's a dad
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Tough time
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👉🔥ɧʘω🔥👈 wrote:
He Pmed me about it already. This is what I told himAsk grimm, he's a dad
Man there's a million things I could tell you and tips I could give. The thing about having kids is you just kinda figure it out as you go along. The number one I could say is, be patient. They cry alot when they're new and it can be frustrating. They're far more important than Xbox or call of duty. I can tell you're pretty young. But you seem smart enough. If she is pregnant, read books. There's one called "what to expect when you're expecting" that's really good. The best way to prevent it in the first place, is to use protection.
I don't know what else I can tell him. There's plenty of other people on here that have had kids longer than me and have more than I do. There's no one perfect answer to raise kids. You kinda just go with it the best you can. He has the right mentality about it though so he's already off to a good start.
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I PM'd him and he says it's official now that he will be a father. His biggest concern is having his foster parents find out.
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Stay in school. Get a job. Stay at foster home. Tell Gil to tell mom. She will get over it. She should stay home. Be the best dad and support her.
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They all will get over it. Hopefully help out. But stay in school.
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I feel bad for the kid a hope his foster parents are good about it.
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Finish school before working a hard job
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Oh dear..
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Stick with school or join a trade union, make time for your kid, and every decision you make consider how it'll effect your child. I have two boys and everyday I'm learning something new.
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I'm not a father, but came close about a year ago. I didn't get any say in what happened, but supported her through everything. All I can say is that you need to talk about what's going on and what you plan to do. Not just you and your girl, but everyone else involved.
I hope that everything works out for you guys.
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Yep, a kid is hard work, your gonna need all the help you can get, so be a man too, fess up, tell everyone who needs to know, take the grief on the chin, be honest, and you might be surprised at the help that gets offered after the initial reaction.
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It doesnt make you a failure to say "I need help"
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to man up in your situation would be to take your girl to planned parenthood. a baby might not ruin your life entirely right now but it's gonna seriously put a damper on your future.
and next time, go for the trifecta: use a rubber, pull out, put a morning after pill in her oj.
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Limit your tw time search for a job and well feeling that an abortion is Inhumane now that you may be up to plate well that just shows you got a heart relax you can do this
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Find out what she wants to do. Put no pressure either way.
When she decides whichever way, be a man and back her up 100%, even if it's not what you might do. -
He seems like a good kid... As long as he keeps his focus on the child hell be fine
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It's surprising how becoming a father just hits you, when you see your baby for the first time it just kinda comes to you, the feeling of love is overwhelming,
The emotions come thick and fast, wanting to protect, feed etc just comes naturally, there will be emotions and feelings that you never knew you had,,,
Stand by your girl and child, get a job and man up, it's a great experience but it takes patience and lost of hard work.
All the best and enjoy it👍 -
👊ADD JAYK👊 wrote:
Yep to all of this 👆. Me and my wife were talking about that. The overwhelming feeling of paternal/maternal instinct. How there's no question at all that you would straight kill someone over your kids. Wouldn't even think twice.It's surprising how becoming a father just hits you, when you see your baby for the first time it just kinda comes to you, the feeling of love is overwhelming,
The emotions come thick and fast, wanting to protect, feed etc just comes naturally, there will be emotions and feelings that you never knew you had,,,
Stand by your girl and child, get a job and man up, it's a great experience but it takes patience and lost of hard work.
All the best and enjoy it👍
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